1. 10

    Parenthood is an endless series of small events, periodic conflicts, and sudden crises which call for a response. The response is not without consequence: it affects personality for better or for worse.

    48
  2. 9

    When gentle persuasion [of children] falls on deaf ears, we resort to ridicule and rebuke. Then we return to threats and punishment. This is the modus operandi of a mutual frustration society.

    49
  3. 8

    Parents often talk about the younger generation as if they didn't have anything to do with it.

    49
  4. 7

    Adolescence can be a time of turmoil and turbulence, of stress and storm. Rebellion against authority and against convention is to be expected and tolerated for the sake of learning and growth.

    51
  5. 6

    Misbehavior and punishment are not opposites that cancel each other - on the contrary they breed and reinforce each other.

    76
  6. 5

    I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or dehumanized.

    97
  7. 4

    When a child hits a child, we call it aggression. When a child hits an adult, we call it hostility. When an adult hits an adult, we call it assault. When an adult hits a child, we call it discipline.

    115
  8. 3

    Teachers are expected to reach unattainable goals with inadequate tools. The miracle is that at times they accomplish this impossible task.

    125
  9. 2

    If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.

    142
  10. 1

    How can we help a child change from undependable to dependable, from a mediocre student to a capable student, from someone who won't amount to very much to someone who will count for something. The answer is at once both simple and complicated: We treat a child as if he already is what we would like him to become.

    167
  11. Last Update: 22 October 2021

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