For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?— Bell Hooks
Reckoning How To Forgive quotations
A strong person loves, forgives, walks away, lets go, tries again, perseveres... No matter what life throws at them.
Whatever our religion, we know that if we really want to love, we must first learn to forgive before anything else.
I try to incorporate faith every day, to not remind myself of past failures, to learn how to forgive and to trust the future.
Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.
I had to learn to forgive myself, not to judge, but to learn from the past.
They showed me how vital it is to accept, be truthful, and love myself. So I could do the same with others.
I shall never forgive you for teaching me how to love life.
She thought about how it was so simple with animals.
They gave their hearts without question or fear. They had no expectations. They were so easy to love. If people could only be like that, no one would ever be hurt, she thought. No one would ever need to learn how to forgive.
Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it.
...Difficult relationships come into our lives for a reason. No one would choose them, certainly. But if we let them, they can teach us how to be flexible with others and more forgiving.
[Biblical counseling] Must insist that the image of God is central to developing a solid view of personality; that our sinfulness, not how we've been sinned against, is our biggest problem; that forgiveness, not wholeness, is our greatest need; that repentance, not insight, is the dynamic in all real change.
... Every circumstance in life, no matter how crooked and distorted and ugly it appears to be, if it is reacted to in love and forgiveness and obedience to your will can be transformed.
Forgiving someone is easy, it's trusting them again that's hard.
How many caskets can we witness before we see it's hard to live this life without God, so we must ask forgiveness.
Let us learn from Christ how to pray, to forgive, to sow peace, and to be near those in need.
Experience is how life catches up with us and teaches us to love and forgive each other.
Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.
And if your friend does evil to you, say to him, I forgive you for what you did to me, but how can I forgive you for what you did to yourself?
You practice forgiveness for two reasons: to let others know that you no longer wish to be in a state of hostility with them and to free yourself from the self-defeating energy of resentment. Send love in some form to those you feel have wronged you and notice how much better you feel.
Spoken forgiveness, no matter how heartfelt, works best when we do not demand the response we want. I mean that when we tell people we forgive them, we must leave them free to respond to our good news however they are inclined. If the response is not what we hoped for, we can go home and enjoy our own healing in private.
We all agree that forgiveness is a beautiful idea until we have to practice it.
Forgiveness isn't always a one-time thing.
There are layers of it that need to be recognized in any situation -especially in a marriage. Sometimes we think we have forgiven, but we don't realize how many layers there are. And if we don't deal with each layer, hardness of heart can set in and build up to monumental proportions.
Only the brave know how to forgive... a coward never forgave; it is not in his nature.
How do children learn to correct their mistakes? By watching how you correct yours. How do children learn to overcome their failures? By watching how you overcome yours. How do children learn to treat themselves with forgiveness? By watching you forgive yourself.
Before you act, listen. Before you react, think. Before you spend, earn. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try.
You can sit there forever, lamenting about how bad you've been, feeling guilty until you die, and not one tiny slice of that guilt will do anything to change a single thing in the past. Forgive yourself, then MOVE ON!
The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the needle that knows how to mend.
When you forgive, you don't change the past... You change the future!
I find it easy to forgive the man who invented a devilish instrument like dynamite, but how can one ever forgive the diabolical mind that invented the Nobel Prize in Literature?
You will have no peace until you have discovered how to forgive yourself, to forgive other people and let them forgive you.
If we are going to be happy and have any chance at growing then we must learn how to forgive others ... and ourselves.
Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
This is the God of the gospel of grace.
A God who, out of love for us, sent the only Son He ever had wrapped in our skin. He learned how to walk, stumbled and fell, cried for His milk, sweated blood in the night, was lashed with a whip and showered with spit, was fixed to a cross, and died whispering forgiveness on us all.
Only the brave know how to forgive; it is the most refined and generous pitch of virtue human nature can arrive at.
I didn't have a catharsis for my childhood pain, most of us don't, and until I learned how to forgive those people and let it go, I was unhappy.
Forgive those who hurt you, but never forget what it taught you.
Sometimes you see how humanity can rise above any kind of cultural ills and hate that a person's capacity to love and communicate and forgive can be bigger than anything else.
If you can't forgive yourself, how can you expect me to?
How many times should you forgive your household bruiser? You should not even think about forgiving him. Not yet. Not as long as he has his foot on your neck. Your problem at this point is not forgiving. Your problem is how to get out of his reach. Once you get away from him, you can think about forgiving him.
Forgiveness is just another name for freedom.
''Just think, never to be glad or disappointed.
Never to like anyone and get cross at him and forgive him. Never to sleep or feel cold, never to make a mistake and have a stomach-ache and be cured from it, never to have a birthday party, drink beer, and have a bad conscience... How terrible.
And if a friend does you wrong, then say: "I forgive you what you have done to me; that you have done it to YOURSELF, however--how could I forgive that!
The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.
If Jesus forgave those who nailed Him to the cross, and if God forgives you and me, how can you withhold your forgiveness from someone else?
Forgive! How many will say, forgive, and find a sort of absolution in the sound to hate a little longer!