You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the ability, if you use it, to choose healthy instead of unhealthy thinking, feeling and acting.— Albert Ellis
Remarkable Self Defeating Behavior quotations
Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situation that threaten your peace of mind, self respect, values, morals and self worth.
The wrong kind of praise creates self-defeating behavior.
The right kind motivates students to learn.
After a while, we start really believing these things are true.
People who have had self-defeating behaviors for a long time, such as people who have been overweight since they were children or people with longtime addictions, actually believe there is no other alternative.
We are what we believe we are.
By using your heart as your compass, you can see more clearly which direction to go to stop self-defeating behavior. If you take just one mental or emotional habit that really bothers or drains you and apply heart intelligence to it, you'll see a noticeable difference in your life.
Whatever your present situation, I assure you that you are not your habits.
You can replace old patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of the effectiveness, happiness and trust-based relationships.
All forms of self-defeating behavior are unseen and unconscious, which is why their existence is denied.
Don't let the past steal your present. Your past has not defined, deterred or defeated you. It has only strengthened who you are today.
Just get out of your own way.
here's a payoff for everyone. The reason we hang on to self-defeating behaviors is because it's easier not to take responsibility.
Excuses are the explanations we use for hanging on to behaviors we don't like about ourselves; they are self-defeating behaviors we don't know how to change. InExcuses Begone! I review 18 of the most common excuses people use, such as "I'm too busy, too old, too fat, too scared or it's going to take too long or be too difficult."
Success - See your goal; Understand the obstacles; Create a positive mental picture; Clear your mind of self doubt; Embrace the challenge; Stay on track; Show the world you can do it!
God's love is so perfect that He lovingly requires us to obey His commandments because He knows that only through obedience to His laws can we become perfect, as He is. For this reason, God's anger and His wrath are not a contradiction of His love but an evidence of His love. Every parent knows that you can love a child totally and completely while still being creatively angry and disappointed at that child's self-defeating behavior.
This self-defeating behavior, so the argument goes, must be the result of warped domestic politics.