Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.— Dale Carnegie
Informative Win Friends And Influence People quotations
You can't change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react to it.
It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is fro+m among such individuals that all human failures spring.
Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation.
There comes a point in your life when you need to stop reading other people's book and write your own.
Pay less attention to what men say. Just watch what they do.
Everybody in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.
The deepest urge in human nature is the desire to feel important.
Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situation that threaten your peace of mind, self respect, values, morals and self worth.
By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.
The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple.
One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.
Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
Become genuinely interested in other people.
Thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge.
If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.
If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes;
but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will.
It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.
Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.
Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
Try honest to see things from the other person's point of view.
The planet does not need more "successful people". The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lover of all kinds.
The only way on Earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
Everyone comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack.
Criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home.
Winning friends begins with friendliness.
Stop worrying and start living.
Intelligent people tend to have less friends than the average person. The smarter you are, the more selevtive you become.
Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
Always make the other person feel important.
Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you.
You make me happy. I am glad to see you.
When you start seeing your worth, you'll find it harder to stay around people who don't.
Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
Merely stating a truth isn't enough. The truth has to be made vivid, interesting, dramatic. You have to use showmanship.
Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become.
Success in dealing with people depends on sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint.
There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything.
Did you ever stop to think of that? Yes, just one way. And that is by making the other person want to do it.
criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurt his sense of importace and arouse resentment.
If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you.