Follow your heart but take your brain with you.— Alfred Adler
The most gorgeous Alfred Adler quotes that are proven to give you inner joy
We are not determined by our experiences, but are self-determined by the meaning we give to them; and when we take particular experiences as the basis for our future life, we are almost certain to be misguided to some degree. Meanings are not determined by situations. We determine ourselves by the meanings we ascribe to situations.
You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else.
The only normal people are the ones you don't know very well.
Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.
Life is just the same as learning to swim.
Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!
Courage is not an ability one either possess or lacks.
Courage is the willingness to engage in a risk-taking behavior regardless of whether the consequences are unknown or possibly adverse. We are capable of courageous behavior provided we are willing to engage in it. Given that life offers few guarantees, all living requires risk-taking.
A simple rule in dealing with those who are hard to get along with is to remember that this person is striving to assert his superiority; and you must deal with him from that point of view.
It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is fro+m among such individuals that all human failures spring.
The chief danger in life is that you may take too many precautions.
What is courage? Courage is the willingness to risk failure.
..There is only one danger I find in life, and that, indeed, is a real one. You may take too many precautions.
All failures - neurotics, psychotics, criminals, drunkards, problem children, suicides, perverts, and prostitutes - are failures because they are lacking in social interest
Every pampered child becomes a hated child.
... There is no greater evil than the pampering of children.
The feeling of inferiority rules the mental life and can be clearly recognized in the sense of incompleteness and unfulfillment, and in the uninterrupted struggle both of individuals and humanity.
The truth is often a terrible weapon of aggression.
It is possible to lie, and even to murder, with the truth.
It is well known that those who do not trust themselves never trust others.
No experience is a cause of success or failure.
We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences, so-called trauma - but we make out of them just what suits our purposes.
Exaggerated sensitiveness is an expression of the feeling of inferiority.
There is a courage of happiness as well as a courage of sorrow.
We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited.
Violence as a way of gaining power... is being camouflaged under the guise of tradition, national honor [and] national security.
We must interpret a bad temper as a sign of inferiority.
The striving for significance, this sense of yearning, always points out to us that all psychological phenomena contain a movement that starts from a feeling of inferiority and reach upward. The theory of Individual Psychology of psychological compensation states that the stronger the feeling of inferiority, the higher the goal for personal power.
To be a human being means to possess a feeling of inferiority which constantly presses towards its own conquest. The greater the feeling of inferiority that has been experienced, the more powerful is the urge for conquest and the more violent the emotional agitation.
Our modern states are preparing for war without even knowing the future enemy.
The goal of the human soul is conquest, perfection, security, superiority.
God who is eternally complete, who directs the stars, who is the master of fates, who elevates man from his lowliness to Himself, who speaks from the cosmos to every single human soul, is the most brilliant manifestation of the goal of perfection.
War is organized murder and torture against our brothers.
Nobody adopts antisocial behaviour unless they fear that they will fail if they remain on the social side of life.
There is only one reason for an individual to side-step to the useless side : the fear of a defeat on the useful side.
There is a law that man should love his neighbor as himself.
In a few hundred years it should be as natural to mankind as breathing or the upright gait; but if he does not learn it he must perish.
It is easier to fight for one's principles than to live up to them.
Distorted history boasts of bellicose glory.
.. and seduces the souls of boys to seek mystical bliss in bloodshed and in battles.
There is no such thing as talent. There is pressure.
To be human means to feel inferior.
To injure another person through atonement is one of the most subtle devices of the neurotic, as when, for example, he indulges in self-accusations.
Every therapeutic cure, and still more, any awkward attempt to show the patient the truth, tears him from the cradle of his freedom from responsibility and must therefore reckon with the most vehement resistance.
Time is a great teacher, but unfortunately it kills all its pupils.
Hector Berlioz It is easier to fight for one's principles than to live up to them.
The style of life is a unity because it has grown out of the difficulties of early life and out of the striving for a goal.
Man knows more than he understands.
More important than innate disposition, objective experience, and environment is the subjective evaluation of these. Furthermore, this evaluation stands in a certain, often strange, relation to reality.
What person, confined in a small room with nothing but a tea-cosy, will not eventually put the tea-cosy on their head?
It is one of the most effective attitudes of the neurotic to measure thumbs down, so to speak, a real person by an ideal, since in doing so he can depreciate him as much as he wishes.
It is easy to believe that life is long and one's gifts are vast -- easy at the beginning, that is. But the limits of life grow more evident; it becomes clear that great work can be done rarely, if at all.
If you wish to educate a child who has gone wrong, then you must, above all, keep your attention fixed on the intersection of two charmed circles.
To all those who walk the path of human cooperation war must appear loathsome and inhuman.
The test of one's behavior pattern; relationship to society, relationship to one's work, relationship to sex.
The science of the mind can only have for its proper goal the understanding of human nature by every human being, and through its use, brings peace to every human soul.
It is the patriotic duty of every man to lie for his country.
Tears and complaints - the means which I have called water power - can be an extremely useful weapon for disturbing cooperation and reducing other to a condition of slavery.