Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do.— Byron Katie
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People try so hard to let go of their negative behaviors and thoughts, and it doesn't work, or it works only for a short time. I didn't let go of my negative thoughts; I questioned them, and then they let go of me, and so did my addictions and depression.
Spare yourself from seeking love, approval, or appreciation-from anyone.
And watch what happens in reality, just for fun.
Our job is unconditional love. The job of everyone else in our life is to push our buttons.
I don't believe anything I think.
Stress is an alarm clock that lets you know you're attached to something not true for you.
Peace doesn't require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there.
Fear has only two causes: the thought of losing what you have or the thought of not getting what you want.
Pay close attention to the particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness.
If you want real control, drop the illusion of control;
let life have you. It does anyway. You’re just telling yourself the story of how it doesn’t.
Your True Nature Is Love. There's Nothing You Can Do About It.
It's not your job to like me - it's mine
Everyone is a mirror image of yourself-your own thinking coming back to you.
The world is nothing but my perception of it.
I see only through myself. I hear only through the filter of my story.
Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them
When you believe that your problem is caused by someone or something else, you become your own victim.
When you do The Work, you see who you are by seeing who you think other people are. Eventually you come to see that everything outside you is a reflection of your own thinking. You are the storyteller, the projector of all stories, and the world is the projected image of your thoughts.
The most important relationship is the mind's relationship with itself.
In other words, the ultimate - and, really, the only - relationship you have is the relationship with your own thoughts.
Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you.
The person who finds peace inside and lives it, is the one who teaches what true peace is.
I realized that it's insane to oppose it.
When I argue with reality, I lose-but only 100% of the time. How do I know that the wind should blow? It's blowing!
Reality doesn't wait for your opinion, vote, or permission, sweetheart.
It just keeps being what it is and doing what it does.
Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.
My experience is that the teachers we need most are the people we're living with right now.
If your beliefs are stressful and you question them, you come to see that they aren't true - whereas prior to questioning, you absolutely believe them. How can you live in joy when you're believing thoughts that bring on sadness, frustration, anger, alienation, and loneliness?
No-one can disappoint you, only your thoughts about them can
You can't have an up without a down. You can't have a left without a right. This is duality. If you have a problem, you must already have the solution. The question is, do you really want the solution, or do you want to perpetuate the problem?
As long as you think that the cause of your problem is "out there" - as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering - the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.
When we believe in our thoughts, when we tell ourselves a story, we suffer.
'My husband doesn't respect me.' 'I should be thinner.' Those are stories. When there's no story, there's no suffering.
Since the past is unreal and the future is unreal, all your thoughts are about nothing.
We are never really in control. We just think we are when things happen to be going our way.
If I had a prayer, it would be this: "God, spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation. Amen."
As you inquire into issues and turn judgments around, you come to see that every perceived problem appearing "out there" is really nothing more than a misperception within your own thinking.
When they attack you and you notice that you love them with all your heart, your Work is done.
When you realize that suffering and discomfort are the call to inquiry, you may actually begin to look forward to uncomfortable feelings. You may even experience them as friends coming to show you what you have not yet investigated thoroughly enough.
If your happiness depends on your children being happy, that makes them your hostages. So stay out of their business, stop using them for your happiness, and be your own happiness. And that way you are the teacher for your children: someone who knows how to live a happy life.
When you think that someone or something other than yourself needs to change, you're mentally out of your business.
Life just happens. It’s what you’re believing about life that makes you suffer.
Just keep coming home to yourself, you are the one who you've been waiting for.
Your most intimate relationship is the one you have with your thoughts.
The only way I can be angry at you is when I have thought, said, or done something that is unkind in my own opinion.
Love is action. It's clear, it's kind, it's effortless, and it's irresistible.
Until the mind is open, the heart stays closed. The open mind is the key to the open heart.
We say to others only what we need to hear
When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.
Reality - the way that is, exactly as it is, in every moment - is always kind.
It's our story about reality that blurs our vision, obscures what's true, and leads us to believe that there is injustice in the world. I sometimes say that you move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer.
Every (stressful thought) is a variation on a single theme: This shouldn't be happening. I shouldn't be having this experience. God is unjust. Life isn't fair.
That's the purpose of stress. It's a friend. It's an alarm clock, built in to let you know that it's time to do The Work.
Don't be careful. You could hurt yourself.
Our parents, our children, our spouses, and our friends will continue to press every button we have, until we realize what it is that we don't want to know about ourselves, yet. They will point us to our freedom every time.
I love not rushing the process. Mind doesn't shift until it does, and when it does shift, it's right on time, not one second too late or too soon. People are like seeds waiting to sprout. We can't be pushed ahead of our own understanding.