The present never ages. Each moment is like a snowflake, unique, unspoiled, unrepeatable, and can be appreciated in its surprisingness.

— Gail Sheehy

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To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist.

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Sex and older women used to be considered an oxymoron, rarely mentioned in the same breath.

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Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.

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Gail Sheehy quote Growth demands a temporary surrender of

Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.

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Although there are many trial marriages... there is no such thing as a trial child.

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Phases of the creative process: Preparation-gathering impressions Incubation-letting go of certainties Immersion/Illumination-creative intervention/risk Revision-conscious structuring and editing of creative material.

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If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living.

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Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.

It may mean a giving up of familiar but limiting patterns, safe but unrewarding work, values no longer believed in, relationships that have lost their meaning. As Dostoevsky put it, "Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most." The real fear should be of the opposite course.

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If menopause is the silent passage, 'male menopause' is the unspeakable passage.

It is fraught with secrecy, shame, and denial. It is much more fundamental than the ending of the fertile period of a woman's life, because it strikes at the core of what it is to be a man.

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As we reach midlife in the middle thirties or early forties, we are not prepared for the idea that time can run out on us, or for the startling truth that if we don't hurry to pursue our own definition of a meaningful existence, life can become a repetition of trivial maintenance duties.

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With each passage of human growth we must shed a protective structure .

We are left exposed and vulnerable - but also yeasty and embryonic again, capable of stretching in ways we hadn't known before.

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Husbands come and go; children come and eventually they go. Friends grow up and move away. But the one thing that's never lost is your sister.

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The source of continuing aliveness was to find your passion and pursue it, with whole heart and single mind.

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About Gail Sheehy

Quotes 61 sayings
Nationality American
Profession Writer
Birthday October 16

My mother had demonstrated that the best way to defeat the numbing ambivalence of middle age is to surprise yourself - by pulling off some cartwheel of thought or action never even imagined at a younger age.

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A seasoned woman is spicy. She has been marinated in life experiences. Like a complex wine, she can be alternately sweet, tart, sparkling, mellow. She is both maternal and playful. Assured, alluring, and resourceful.

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If every day is an awakening, you will never grow old. You will just keep growing.

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Changes are not only possible and predictable, but to deny them is to be an accomplice to one's own unnecessary vegetation.

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Whether one has natural talent or not, any learning period requires the willingness to suffer uncertainty and embarrassment.

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Transformation also means looking for ways to stop pushing yourself so hard professionally or inviting so much stress.

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No sooner do we think we have assembled a comfortable life than we find a piece of ourselves that has no place to fit in.

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We must be willing to change chairs if we want to grow.

There is no permanent compatibility between a chair and a person. And there is no one right chair. What is right at one stage may be restricting at another or too soft. During the passage from one stage to another, we will be between two chairs. Wobbling no doubt, but developing.

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Ah, mastery... what a profoundly satisfying feeling when one finally gets on top of a new set of skills... and then sees the light under the new door those skills can open, even as another door is closing.

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When men reach their sixties and retire, they go to pieces. Women go right on cooking.

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When you have self-respect, you have enough.

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There is no more defiant denial of one man's ability to possess one woman exclusively than the prostitute who refuses to redeemed.

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Would that there were an award for people who come to understand the concept of enough. Good enough. Successful enough. Thin enough. Rich enough. Socially responsible enough. When you have self-respect, you have enough.

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The fundamental steps of expansion that will open a person, over time, to the full flowering of his or her individuality are the same for both genders. But men and women are rarely in the same place struggling with the same questions at the same age.

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Frustration is the mother of risk.

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A restless vitality wells up as we approach 30.

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The delights of self-discovery are always available.

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Democratization is not democracy; it is a slogan for the temporary liberalization handed down from an autocrat. Glasnost is not free speech; only free speech, constitutionally guaranteed, is free speech.

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The secret of a leader lies in the tests he has faced over the whole course of his life and the habit of action he develops in meeting those tests.

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The one thing prostitution is not is a 'victimless crime.

' It attracts a wide species of preying criminals and generates a long line of victims, beginning with the most obvious and least understood - the prostitute herself.

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Since nobody upstages Rudolph Giuliani, his will be a Broadway-class show, perhaps his final bravura performance before November 2000, when he hopes to be turned out of the mayor's office by virtue of his election to the United States Senate.

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Speed as a drug disorganizes the personality;

speed as the goal of information dissemination commits a subtler crime. People are mainlining our words. We rarely read of the rational alternatives, only of the commands that all must change or else. This is a prescription for public panic.

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Leaders are people we as followers want to regard with awe as the fullest flowering of our own possibilities.

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Adolescents are like cockroaches: They come out the minute you leave town, crawl the walls, feed indiscriminately, reproduce alarmingly unless drugged, and will certainly outlast you.

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Young women who I think do the best job of balancing family life and a big career start businesses or work for themselves. That's the best way of being in charge of your life.

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In the many times I have seen Hillary [Clinton] speak, she never fails to dazzle audiences by speaking in paragraphs, without notes.

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children may need challenges and high-risk conditions in order to develop the self-generated immunity to trauma that characterizes survivors. To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist.

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To hear how special and wonderful we are is endlessly enthralling.

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Being a pathfinder is to be willing to risk failure and still go on.

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Men are not given awards and promotions for bravery in intimacy.

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We hear the haunting presentiment of a dutiful middle age in the current reluctance of young people to select any option except the one they feel will impinge upon them the least.

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It is Hillary's [Clinton] star power that radiates to every corner of the ballroom. New York bigwigs, such as financial-media impresario Michael Bloomberg, attorney and labor mediator Theodore Kheel, and District Attorney Robert Morgenthau, crane to see her.

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The perceptions of middle age have their own luminosity.

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With the only certainty in our daily existence being change, and a rate of change growing always faster in a kind of technological leapfrog game, speed helps people think they are catching up.

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It is a paradox that as we reach out prime, we also see there is a place where it finishes.

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In my memoir, I admit that I've been as fearful of success as of failure.

In fact, when 'Passages' was published, I so dreaded bad reviews that I ran away to Italy with a girlfriend and our children to hide out.

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My research offers impressive evidence that we feel better when we attempt to make our world better...to have a purpose beyond one's self lends to existence a meaning and direction - the most important characteristic of high well-being.

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