Working is one of the most dangerous forms of procrastination.— Gretchen Rubin
The most courageous Gretchen Rubin quotes that will transform you to a better person
Happiness: "You Bring Your Own Weather To The Picnic."
If I pretend to myself that I'm different from the way I truly am, I'm going to make choices that won't make me happy.
Money. It's a good servant but a bad master.
Act the way you WANT to feel.
When I thought about why I was sometimes reluctant to push myself, I realized that it was because I was afraid of failure - but in order to have more success, I needed to be willing to accept more failure.
I'm a person who's fine saying 'No.' I like saying to myself, "no gossiping," "no nagging."
It's about living in the moment and appreciating the smallest things.
Surrounding yourself with the things that inspire you and letting go of the obsessions that want to take over your mind. It is a daily struggle sometimes and hard work but happiness begins with your own attitude and how you look at the world.
One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy.
One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.
Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.
Turns out that people who try new things, go new places, learn new skills, etc.
are happier. This can be tough, because novelty and challenge also bring frustration and irritation - but if you can push through that, novelty and challenge can bring enormous happiness rewards.
Say “no” only when it really matters.
Wear a bright red shirt with bright orange shorts? Sure. Put water in the toy tea set? Okay. Sleep with your head at the foot of the bed? Fine. Samuel Johnson said, “All severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle."
I always had the uncomfortable feeling that if I wasn't sitting in front of a computer typing, I was wasting my time - but I pushed myself to take a wider view of what was "productive." Time spent with my family and friends was never wasted.
Never start a sentence with the words 'No offense.
Studies show that aggressively expressing anger doesn't relieve anger but amplifies it. On the other hand, not expressing anger often allows it to disappear without leaving ugly traces.
A 'treat' is different from a 'reward', which must be justified or earned.
A treat is a small pleasure or indulgence that we give to ourselves just because we want it. Treats give us greater vitality, which boosts self-control, which helps us maintain our healthy habits.
Laughter is more than just a pleasurable activity.
..When people laugh together, they tend to talk and touch more and to make eye contact more frequently.
One reason that challenge brings happiness is that it allows you to expand your self - definition. You become larger. Suddenly you can do yoga or make homemade beer or speak a decent amount of Spanish. Research shows that the more elements make up your identity, the less threatening it is when any one element is threatened.
Feelings follow actions. If I'm feeling low, I deliberately act cheery, and I find myself actually feeling happier. If I'm feeling angry at someone, I do something thoughtful for her and my feelings toward her soften. This strategy is uncannily effective.
Knowing what you admire in others is a wonderful mirror into your deepest, as yet unborn, self.
There is a preppy wabi-sabi to soft, faded khakis and cotton shirts, but it's not nice to be surrounded by things that are worn out or stained or used up.
According to current research, in the determination of a person's level of happiness, genetics accounts for about 50 percent; life circumstances, such as age, gender, ethnicity, marital status, income, health, occupation, and religious affiliation, account for about 10 to 20 percent; and the remainder is a product of how a person thinks and acts.
Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
Lower the bar. Actually spending ten minutes clearing off one shelf is better than fantasizing about spending a weekend cleaning out the basement.
Pouring out ideas is better for creativity than doling them out by the teaspoon.
... one flaw throws the loveliness of [everything else] into focus. I remember reading that Shakers deliberately introduced a mistake into the things they made, to show that man shouldn't aspire to the perfection of God. Flawed can be more perfect than perfection.
When I find myself focusing overmuch on the anticipated future happiness of arriving at a certain goal, I remind myself to 'Enjoy now'. If I can enjoy the present, I don't need to count on the happiness that is (or isn't) waiting for me in the future".
To eke out the most happiness from an experience, we must anticipate it, savor it as it unfolds, express happiness, and recall a happy memory.
The things that go wrong often make the best memories.
Being taken for granted is an unpleasant but sincere form of praise.
Ironically, the more reliable you are and the less you complain, the more likely you are to be taken for granted.
Look for happiness under your own roof.
The First Splendid Truth: To be happy, I need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth.
What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while.
In the scope of a happy life, a messy desk or an overstuffed coat closet is a trivial thing, yet I find — and I hear from other people that they agree — that getting rid of clutter gives a disproportionate boost to happiness.
Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I fail, but every day is a clean slate and a fresh opportunity.
Flawed can be more perfect than perfection.
Be a storehouse of happy memories.
Self-awareness is a key to self-mastery
It's the task that's never started that's more tiresome.
We can use decision-making to choose the habits we want to form, use willpower to get the habit started, then - and this is the best part - we can allow the extraordinary power of habit to take over. At that point, were free from the need to decide and the need to use willpower.
Your unhappiness doesn't help anyone else - and in fact, as I mentioned in another answer, happy people are more altruistically inclined. So happiness is not a selfish goal.
One of the best ways to make yourself happy in the present is to recall happy times from the past. Photos are a great memory-prompt, and because we tend to take photos of happy occasions, they weight our memories to the good.
The most reliable predictor of not being lonely is the amount of contact with women. Time spent with men doesn't make a difference.
Getting paperwork under control makes me feel more in control of my life generally.
I am living my real life, this is it.
Now is now, and if I waited to be happier, waited to have fun, waited to do the things that I know I ought to do, I might never get the chance.
Focus Not on Having Less or Having More, But on Wanting What You Have.
Get enough exercise and sleep: Sounds trivial, but it's not.
You may have the urge to work 24/7, to skip the gym and to stay up late to get a few more things done. That's short-sighted. Exercise and sleep are critical to having the physical and mental energy necessary to meet a challenge.
One of the great joys of falling in love is the feeling that the most extraordinary person in the entire world has chosen you.
Enthusiasm is more important to mastery than innate ability.
One of the things that surprised me the most is how often we assume that because something's fun for someone else, it makes somebody else happy, it will make us happy.