A Rolex watch or an expensive car are the things guys often use to show status, wealth, and basic desirability.

— Helen Fisher

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Keep an open heart. We are wired to find love.

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Why do we feel jealousy? Therapists often regard the demon as a scar of childhood trauma or a symptom of a psychological problem. And it's true that people who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than others.

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A world without love is a deadly place.

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You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your 'love map,' an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems.

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There's all kinds of reasons that you fall in love with one person rather than another: Timing is important. Proximity is important. Mystery is important. You fall in love with somebody who's somewhat mysterious, in part because mystery elevates dopamine in the brain, probably pushes you over that threshold to fall in love.

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That "ol' black magic" is a fickle force.

The chemistry of romantic love can trigger the chemistry of sexual desire and the fuel of sexual desire can trigger the fuel of romance. This is why it is dangerous to copulate with someone with whom you don't wish to become involved. Although you intend to have casual sex, you might just fall in love.

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There's magic to love... Millions of years ago we evolved three basic drives: the sex love, romantic love, and attachment to a long-term partner. These circuits are deeply embedded in the human brian. They're going to survive as long as our species survive on what Shakespeare called, this "mortal coil."

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Your sweetheart calls you by another's name.

His eyes linger too long on your best friend. He talks with excitement about a girl at work. And the fire catches. Jealousy - that sickening combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, and humiliation - can overtake your mind and threaten your very core as you contemplate your rival.

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We're not very dangerous animals; we don't have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.

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Men and women are like two feet; they can help each other get ahead.

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Women have never been as interesting as they are now.

Not at any time on this planet have women been so educated, so interesting, so capable.

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Games are the way we keep romance alive.

They're based in human hardwiring. Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued.

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About Helen Fisher

Quotes 144 sayings
Profession Researcher
Birthday October 16

I think romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time, thereby conserving mating time and energy.

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Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.

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From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types - each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.

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Today, most women are surrounded by ingenious gadgets.

They don't grow the peas or raise the chicken that they serve for dinner; instead they hunt and gather in the grocery store. They go through catalogs or department stores to buy clothes instead of shearing sheep, carding wool, and weaving cloth for skirts and coats and blankets.

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Romantic love is not an emotion. ... It's a drive. It comes from the motor of the mind, the wanting part of the mind, the craving part of the mind.

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As a group, anthropologists are not too fond of people who work in the business world.

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Saliva has testosterone and estrogen. When you kiss, you're having a chemical experience.

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Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.

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The reason you take antidepressants is to feel calm.

And romantic love is not calm -it's elation, it's mood swings, and you're killing all that when you take the drug.

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Psychologists maintain that the dizzy feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to-at best-three years

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What our grandmothers told us about playing hard to get is true.

The whole point of the game is to impress and capture. It's not about honesty. Many men and women, when they're playing the courtship game, deceive so they can win. Novelty, excitement and danger drive up dopamine in the brain. And both sexes brag.

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Women are better at reading body language everywhere in the world.

As a matter of fact, it's associated with the female hormone estrogen. Women are better at figuring out of tone of voice, reading your face and posture and gesture.

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Mothers really were not built to raise babies not only by themselves, but with only a partner. For millions of years, a woman had much more than just her husband to help rear her young... This whole idea of 'it takes a village to raise a child' is exactly how we're supposed to live.

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There were real reasons that you were attracted to somebody originally.

The brain doesn't pick willy-nilly. Unless you part ways hating each other for some reason, that mechanism could get triggered again. You can literally fall in love again.

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When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.

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Anthropologists have found evidence of romantic love in 170 societies.

They've never found a society that did not have it.

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Throughout evolution, ostracism was death indeed.

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You can get into a very fancy car and know everything about the engine, but when you drive in that car, you feel that rush. In the same way, I think the more you know about love, the more you can enjoy it. And knowing about your personality type, who you are and what kind of person you're dealing with gives you a great leg up.

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A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.

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Whether you're married or not, relationships - and the satisfaction tied to them - are extremely important for increasing men's and women's quality of life.

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love is like Someone is camping in your head

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Globalization requires taking a broad contextual and long-term view.

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I think the happiness we find, we make.

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The Great Depression of the 1930s saw more American unmarried women working from nine to five, mostly in repetitive, boring, subordinate, dead-end jobs. But the number of working women doubled between 1870 and 1940. During World War II it doubled once again.

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Blushing is thought to be linked to increased levels of norepinephrine in the brain, which may be associated with romantic feelings. It signals that we are interested and excited, which is attractive to men.

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Kissing is not just kissing. It is a major escalation or de-escalation point in a powerful process of mate choice.

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Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there's a potential for a relationship.

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It certainly would have been adaptive for ancestral man to have a chubby wife during stressful times of famine. Not only would she have had more calories to burn, and thus more energy and endurance, but since fat stores estrogen, she would have remained fertile for longer.

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As women in industrial societies join the paid workforce, they gain the economic means to depart unhappy marriages more easily.

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Men are so visual, they see a woman who appeals to them physically, and it will trigger the romantic love system faster.

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People have often asked me whether what I know about love has spoiled it for me.

And I just simply say, 'Hardly.' You can know every single ingredient in a piece of chocolate cake, and then when you sit down and eat that cake, you can still feel that joy.

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Men have a psychological need to show off their courage and strength.

When he sees you talking to another guy, that instinct kicks in and he jumps to protect you and prove he's worthy of your love.

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Men want to think women don't cheat, and women want men to think they don't cheat, and therefore the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other.

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Jealousy can even be good for love. One partner may feel secretly flattered when the other is mildly jealous. And catching someone flirting with your beloved can spark the kind of lust and romance that reignites a relationship.

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Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.

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There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.

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Women are very attracted to a low voice because it's linked to testosterone, which for millions of years was a sign that men had very good spacial skills and would have been very good at hunting and finding their way back home.

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