110+ Martha Beck Quotes On Happiness, Relationships And Cbt

Martha Beck is an American author, life coach, and sociologist. She is best known for her work in the field of personal development and is a regular contributor to the Oprah Winfrey Show. She is the author of several books, including Finding Your Own North Star and The Joy Diet. Following is our collection on famous quotes by Martha Beck on life, happiness, relationships.

Top 10 Martha Beck Quotes

1. I really do think that any deep crisis is an opportunity to make your life extraordinary in some way.
2. Basic human contact - the meeting of eyes, the exchanging of words - is to the psyche what oxygen is to the brain. If you're feeling abandoned by the world, interact with anyone you can.
3. Given the eclectic and constantly shifting nature of my metaphysical inclinations, I will probably never feel certain exactly what an angel is.
4. At times in my life, I have been utterly lonely. At other times, I've had disgusting infectious diseases. Try admitting these things in our culture.
5. If you're feeling abandoned by the world, interact with anyone you can.
6. The way that other people judge me is none of my business.
7. Standards of beauty are arbitrary. Body shame exists only to the extent that our physiques don't match our own beliefs about how we should look.
8. Although beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, the feeling of being beautiful exists solely in the mind of the beheld.
9. Every day brings new choices.
10. Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury.

Martha Beck Short Quotes

• Loneliness is proof that your innate search for connection is intact.
• Your individuality is the most valuable thing you have.
• Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone.
• If you begin to face your fears, something bittersweet is going to happen to you: You'll grow up.
• You're exactly where you're meant to be, meandering along a crooked path.
• What laughter is to childhood, sex is to adolescence.
• Slow is fast, gentle is powerful and stillness moves mountains
• Breathe in, breathe out, no fear, no doubt.
• No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth.
• The average adult laughs 15 times a day; the average child, more than 400 times.

Martha Beck Quotes About Life

If you feel stuck in your present life, if you feel no enthusiasm for anything, if you think you have no purpose or that you lost that purpose somewhere along the way, I guarantee you are living in a dungeon made of stories. And that none of those limiting stories are true. — Martha Beck

No one else can take risks for us, or face our losses on our behalf, or give us self-esteem. No one can spare us from life's slings and arrows, and when death comes, we meet it alone. — Martha Beck

If your life is cloudy and you're far, far off course, you may have to go on faith for a while, but eventually you'll learn that every time you trust your internal navigation system, you end up closer to your right life. — Martha Beck

Life is full of tough decisions, and nothing makes them easy. But the worst ones are really your personal koans, and tormenting ambivalence is just the sense of satori rising. Try, trust, try, and trust again, and eventually you'll feel your mind change its focus to a new level of understanding. — Martha Beck

Only since the Industrial Revolution have most people worked in places away from their homes or been left to raise small children without the help of multiple adults, making for an unsupported life. — Martha Beck

Do something today that you think is too delicious, too selfish, too wacky to fit within the rules of your life. — Martha Beck

In one century, we've added 28 years to our average life span - a change so rapid that our brains couldn't possibly have evolved to accommodate it. — Martha Beck

I majored in Chinese. I was never really good at Chinese but I really, really benefited from having been exposed to Asian philosophy early in my life. — Martha Beck

This is the part of us that makes our brief, improbable little lives worth living: the ability to reach through our own isolation and find strength, and comfort, and warmth for and in each other. This is what human beings do. This is what we live for, the way horses live to run. — Martha Beck

A confession you make merely to illuminate the murky corners of your little life may end up lighting the path to freedom for a thousand other hearts. — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Quotes About Happiness

Connecting with the people who are meant to be part of your own North Star is much more important than any aspect of business. It's the essence of happiness, the full realization of your potential for joy. — Martha Beck

Most unhappy people need to learn just one lesson: how to see themselves through the lens of genuine compassion, and treat themselves accordingly. — Martha Beck

Stop fixating on stuff you can touch and start caring about stuff that touches you. — Martha Beck

Forcing yourself to think happy lies doesn't heal your dreams. Getting to the truth does. — Martha Beck

Creating ways to be happy is your life's work, a challenge that won't end until you die. — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Quotes About Relationships

Recurrent floods of sadness and anger gradually wash away the rubble of the defunct relationship, leaving only the bits of treasure: the remembered moments of real communion, a new understanding of your own mistakes, a clear picture of the dysfunctions you will never tolerate again. — Martha Beck

Conflict in close relationships is not only inevitable, it's essential. Intimacy connects people who are inevitably different. — Martha Beck

Every aspect of your life, whether it's a task or relationship, personal or professional, will be based on love and joy. And when you get right down to it, nothing else really matters. — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Quotes About Love

Don’t hide love. If you feel it, express it-not to demand that others love you back, but simply to live outwardly the best of what you feel inwardly. The worst that can happen to your heart is not rejection by another person but failure to act on the love you feel. — Martha Beck

Any moment you spend attacking yourself is a moment away from your higher purpose and your power to love. Don't go there. — Martha Beck

Whoever said love is blind is dead wrong. Love is the only thing that lets us see each other with the remotest accuracy. — Martha Beck

If you’re doing something you love with people you love in a place you love, you are going to create something of value to the world. — Martha Beck

It seems to me at this moment that laughing is a serious thing, that it connects us with truth and love and God. — Martha Beck

Constantly measuring ourselves against others sours and shortens our lives, robbing us of the very things we think it will bring: prosperity, love, inner peace, the knowledge that we’re good enough. — Martha Beck

My deep belief is that all of us have the same lifelong work: to learn honesty, courage, and love. To learn, in other words, how to be our best selves. — Martha Beck

Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really want. — Martha Beck

The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. Your lover couldn't have seen [these qualities] in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being. — Martha Beck

The more you claim your own destiny, the easier it will be to love unconditionally . — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Quotes About Inspirational

If anything is worth doing, it is worth doing it badly. — Martha Beck

I'm not saying we have power over everything in our lives - if that were true, my hair would look so, so different - but I am saying that there's no circumstance in which we are completely powerless. — Martha Beck

To be really productive, it's as important to rest when we're tired as it is to work when we're inspired. — Martha Beck

Don't expect the future to look like the past. Clear away expectations, and let yourself picture a wild, grand new world. — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Quotes About Feel

I am free, and always have been; free to accept my own reality, free to trust my perceptions, free to believe what makes me feel sane even if others call me crazy, free to disagree even if it means great loss, free to seek the way home until I find it. — Martha Beck

Almost all my middle-aged and elderly acquaintances, including me, feel about 25, unless we haven't had our coffee, in which case we feel 107. — Martha Beck

The way to find your own North Star is not to think or feel your way forward but to dissolve the thoughts and feeling that make you miserable. You don't have to learn your destiny--you already know it; you just have to unlearn the thoughts that blind you to what you know. — Martha Beck

Children who assume adult responsibilities feel old when they're young. — Martha Beck

A true leader is not someone who feels fully informed but someone who continuously receives insight and guidance. — Martha Beck

Your first daily priority should be stillness, attention to what you really know and what you really feel. — Martha Beck

We virtually never feel our age, but thinking that we should can lead to disaster. — Martha Beck

Here is the crux of the matter, the distilled essence, the only thing you need to remember: When considering whether to say yes or no, you must choose the response that feels like freedom. Period. — Martha Beck

Peace is more than just a feeling. It's the mental and physical frequency where you'll find all your real power. — Martha Beck

When we run from our feelings, they follow us. Everywhere. — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Quotes About People

When you meet people, show real appreciation, then genuine curiosity. — Martha Beck

Absolutely lonely people have few personal interactions of any kind. — Martha Beck

My anguish came from my hypothesis that other people's hypothetical hypotheses about me mattered. Ridiculous! — Martha Beck

People are so afraid of authority figures and doctors are authority figures. — Martha Beck

I always felt that it was my job to try to help other people get it and deal with it. — Martha Beck

If you find yourself getting nervous stop and relax for three full breaths. Then take one small step, then another. That is how people get to the top of Everest. — Martha Beck

Many people think passion is a fuzzy feeling that makes taking action effortless. In fact, it's the gritty courage and tenacity to forge onward. — Martha Beck

People who get what they want tend to be the ones who make the effort to know what they want. — Martha Beck

Imagine what you'd do if it absolutely didn't matter what people thought of you. Got it? Good. Never go back. — Martha Beck

I want you to be supervised, all day every day, by people who forgive your errors and believe in your destiny. — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Quotes About Children

Allowing children to show their guilt, show their grief, show their anger, takes the sting out of the situation. — Martha Beck

Adults under threat feel like children. — Martha Beck

Trying to motivate yourself with fear is like screaming at a child, “Do something, dammit!” You’ll either freeze up or act in counterproducti ve ways. Fear widens the knowing-doing gap. Don’t use it. — Martha Beck

Martha Beck Famous Quotes And Sayings

If a problem looks difficult, relax. If it looks impossible, relax even more. Then begin encouraging small changes, putting just enough pressure on yourself to move one turtle step forward. Then rest, savor, celebrate. Then step again. You’ll find that slow is fast, gentle is powerful, and stillness moves mountains. — Martha Beck

Welcoming imperfection is the way to accomplish what perfectionism promises but never delivers. It gives us our best performance and genuine acceptance in the family of human -- and by that I mean imperfect -- beings. — Martha Beck

Caring for your inner child has a powerful and surprisingly quick result: Do it and the child heals. — Martha Beck

When you are in a creative or appreciative zone, you literally have no access to your inner lizard, to that fear-based, non creative, shrieking little beasty who's so afraid you're going to be a bag lady. — Martha Beck

Many of us assume that we have to do things a certain way: ignore passion in favor of safer bets, act stoic amid inner turmoil, run on an upward trajectory of success and money acquisition at any emotional cost. But these are not rules. — Martha Beck

Learning to spot narcissists and deal with their destructive behavior can save you the world of hurt that awaits anyone who mistakes the near enemy for a friend. — Martha Beck

When fear makes your choices for you, no security measures on earth will keep the things you dread from finding you. But if you can avoid avoidance - if you can choose to embrace experiences out of passion, enthusiasm, and a readiness to feel whatever arises - then nothing, nothing in all this dangerous world, can keep you from being safe. — Martha Beck

Criticism is an alluring substitute for creation, because tearing things down, unlike building them up, really is as easy as falling off a stump. It's blissfully simple to strike a savvy, sophisticated pose by attacking someone else's creations, but the old adage is right: Any fool can burn down a barn. Building one is something else again. — Martha Beck

To follow your life's guidance, you may have to reassign some seemingly important things to 'unimportant.' If you believe that pleasing your horrible boss or having a spotless house is a higher priority than playing with your children or sleeping off the flu, be prepared for a long and strenuous battle against destiny. Also, be prepared to lose. — Martha Beck

Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking but a full-on metamorphosis. — Martha Beck

Try seeing your world and yourself this way, eyes open to whatever is before you, mind free of dichotomies. Are you good or bad, fragile or tough, wise or foolish? Yes. And so am I. — Martha Beck

No part of your experience is wasted. Everything you've experienced so far is part of what you were meant to learn. — Martha Beck

The position that I take partly as a result of living in Asia is where you stop living according to your expectations and you become available to experience things as they are. — Martha Beck

Fear is the raw material from which courage is manufactured. Without it, we wouldn't even know what it means to be brave. — Martha Beck

Most people go through their whole lives," John went on, "and never have one miracle happen to them. You've had dozens and dozens, and you still want more! It's like God gives you a brownie, I mean a really good brownie, but you can't be content with it. You want the whole pan of brownies. Nobody gets that. — Martha Beck

Polite strangers often tell soothing lies about our physical appearance that prevent many of us from facing, discussing and solving our real problems. — Martha Beck

Most of my clients don't realize that the way they look and the way they think about their looks are two separate issues. — Martha Beck

Own your failure openly, publicly, with genuine regret but absolutely no shame, and you’ll reap a harvest of forgiveness, trust, respect, and connection-the things you thought you’d get by succeeding. Ironic, isn’t it? — Martha Beck

As much horror as we have always created, we are a species that keeps moving forward, seeing new sights in new ways, and enjoying the journey. — Martha Beck

The past doesn’t exist except as a memory, a mental story, and though past events aren’t changeable, your stories about them are. You can act now to transform the way you tell the story of your past, ultimately making it a stalwart protector of your future. — Martha Beck

During the times we think we’re being “unproductive,” the seeds of new worlds are germinating within us, and they need peace to grow. — Martha Beck

A joyful life isn’t about others; it’s about the brightness that is associated with being alive. Your path to it is through anything that replaces thinking with pure flight, pure joy. — Martha Beck

Perpetually doing, without ever tuning in to the center of our being, is the equivalent of fueling a mighty ship by tossing all its navigational equipment into the furnace. — Martha Beck

Learning to let go of expectations is a ticket to peace. It allows us to ride over every crisis—small or large, brother-in-law or end-of-quarter office lockdown—like a beach ball on water. The next time a problem arises in your life, take a deep breath, let out a sigh, and replace the thought Oh no! with the thought Okay. — Martha Beck

Somewhere in there, among the worries, questions, advice and advertising jingles, lives your intuition, your true 'inner voice.' You can hear it to the extent that you give it your attention. — Martha Beck

Do whatever work feeds your true self, even if it’s not a safe bet, even if it’s like a crazy risk, even if everyone in your life tells you you’re wrong or bad or crazy. — Martha Beck

Pain is like a life coach in your body. It’s what made me a life coach because I started paying a lot of attention to what made me hurt and what didn’t. It turned out my body was trying to steer me away from a life that was absolutely wrong for me and into a life that was absolutely wonderful. — Martha Beck

Though we often see life troughs as the universe's conspiracy to ruin us, they're actually our own true nature inviting us to lay down our weary heads. — Martha Beck

If you want to end your isolation, you must be honest about what you want at a core level and decide to go after it. — Martha Beck

If you see failure as a monster stalking you, or one that has already ruined your life, take another look. That monster can become a benevolent teacher, opening your mind to successes you cannot now imagine. — Martha Beck

By the end of your incredibly arduous, disappointing, stressful journey, you will be your true self, in a place where you belong, with friends who truly understand you and bring all sorts of opportunities your way. — Martha Beck

My own nature hovers between neurotic and paranoid. I've developed the habit of mentally listing things that make me optimistic about the future. I do it every day. — Martha Beck

Explorers depend on the North Star when there are no other landmarks in sight. The same relationship exists between you and your right life, the ultimate realization of your potential for happiness. I believe that a knowledge of that perfect life sits inside you just as the North Star sits in its unaltering spot. — Martha Beck

Do whatever it takes to convey your essential self. — Martha Beck

This very moment of your life, if you experience it fully, will show you astonishing wonders and exquisite delights. — Martha Beck

Don’t worry that you’ve wasted time. Each moment -- no matter how frozen or confused -- was a useful and necessary lesson. — Martha Beck

Having fun is not a diversion from a successful life; it is the pathway to it. — Martha Beck

The only map of your right life is written on your soul at its most peaceful, and the only sure compass is your heart at its most open. — Martha Beck

I once read that forgiveness is giving up all hope of having had a different past...but forgiving is not the same as obliterating memory. — Martha Beck

To care for someone can mean to adore them, feed them, tend their wounds. But care can also signify sorrow, as in "bowed down by cares." Or anxiety, as in "Careful!" Or investment in an outcome, as in "Who cares?" The word love has no such range of meaning: It's pure acceptance. — Martha Beck

When you're weary, find relief. When you're strong, find delight. — Martha Beck

Angels come in many shapes and sizes, and most of them are not invisible. — Martha Beck

There's tons of magic in the world, and it's all science. — Martha Beck

Imagination is the doorway you walk through into every future moment. Are you walking through doorways to pain or to joy? — Martha Beck

Everything always passes, and everything is already okay. Stay in the place where you can see that, and nothing will resist you. — Martha Beck

You shine for who you are ... because no one can steal your light. — Martha Beck

You do not owe anyone your time. When you realize that, others will respect your time much more. — Martha Beck

In the moments I get it right, every step I take seems to be matched by a universal mystery, which obligingly, incredibly, creates what I can't. — Martha Beck

Be brave enough to turn away from shiny objects, and toward the light that makes them shine. — Martha Beck

Stop trying to change your behavior; instead, rethink your beliefs — Martha Beck

Life Lessons by Martha Beck

1. Martha Beck teaches that it's important to be true to yourself and to trust your intuition. She encourages people to take risks and to be open to new experiences.
2. Martha Beck also teaches that it's important to be mindful of the present moment and to be aware of the interconnectedness of all things.
3. Finally, Martha Beck encourages people to be kind and compassionate to themselves and to others, and to live a life of purpose and joy.