Neither situations nor people can be altered by the interference of an outsider. If they are to be altered, that alteration must come from within.— Phyllis Bottome
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Truth, though it has many disadvantages, is at least changeless.
You can always find it where you left it.
She believed in letting children have a certain amount of rope, and only intervened at the last moment, in order to prevent their hanging themselves by it.
Love comes into your being like a tidal wave .
.. sometimes it withdraws like a wave, till there isn't such a thing as a pool left, and every bit of your heart is as dry as seaweed beyond the wave's reach.
Curses are children of hate; they belong to the wrong family! Prayers are better than curses!
To be a Jew is to be strong with a strength that has outlived persecutions.
It is to be wise against ignorance, honest against piracy, harmless against evil, kind against cruelty
Marriage! ... Why, it is like living in a thimble with a hippopotamus!
What are so mysterious as the eyes of a child?
When lightning strikes, the mouse is sometimes burned with the farm.
the unfortunate thing about worldliness is that its rewards are rather less than its appetites.
Luck enters into every contingency. You are a fool if you forget it -- and a greater fool if you count upon it.
This is the real tragedy of mankind, that until now the spirit of man has not been able to free itself, even along the path of its own development, from the tentacles of self-deception.
I am never at picnics. The ground was not meant to be sat upon in its raw state, I feel sure, and I prefer my food without either caterpillars or drafts!
The only creative power I know is that of what might roughly be called 'love';
not of course a sentimental love: a far more impersonal and less individual emotion. I sometimes think that migratory birds may have it for each other. They fly in the same direction, and have never been seen to interfere with each other's flights.
There are two ways of meeting difficulties: you alter the difficulties or you alter yourself meeting them.
... what most people tell you a confidence for is to get something off their chest which hasn't really been on it. They don't necessarily want to hide the truth from you, but they're out to hide it from themselves
I wonder how often not the intention but the desire springs up in a doctor's mind: 'Can I let this human being out of the trap of Life?
There is no thermometer for wants!
it must depend as much upon the patient's willingness to be cured, as upon the physician's skill in curing. There is neither force not magic in psychiatry.
if you listen long enough - or is it deep enough? - the silence of a lover can speak plainer than any words! Only you must know how to listen. Pain must have taught you how.
hurt vanity is one of the cruelest of mortal wounds.
It is you men who make war! ... We, who have children, would never make it! Why should a woman be broken up in pain, to give her child life, only to see him carried away from her, to make food for guns?
Nobody can afford to appear more pleasant than they really are!
People who talk of new lives believe there will be no new troubles.
... not being liked has a certain virtue about it, if the reason for the dislike does not lie in yourself!
Poets, when they write of love, give themselves and everyone else away!
In my early life, and probably even today, it is not sufficiently understood that a child's education should include at least a rudimentary grasp of religion, sex, and money. Without a basic knowledge of these three primary facts in a normal human being's life --subjects which stir the emotions, create events and opportunities, and if they do not wholly decide must greatly influence an individual's personality --no human being's education can have a safe foundation.
Time indeed has very little to do with living except at its beginning or near its end.
Lots of men hate women now-a-days. ... It was a man-made world, and now we're asking to go shares in the making.
Things that happen, however painful they are at the time, do not matter very much for long. Only how we behave to them matters.
It is a very dangerous thing to have an idea that you will not practice.
... a woman who has been a nun is never anything else.
Death deceives relations often, and doctors sometimes, but the patient - never.
Feelings change facts.
That a Jew is despised or persecuted is bad for him, of course-but far worse for the Christian who does it-for although persecuted he can remain a good Jew-whereas no Christian who persecutes can possibly remain-if he ever was one-a good Christian.
Curiosity is the only thing that really carries through time, isn't it? The creative curiosity, I mean, which fights its way into expression?
all daughters, even when most aggravated by their mothers, have a secret respect for them. They believe perhaps that they can do everything better than their mothers can, and many things they can do better, but they have not yet lived long enough to be sure how successfully they will meet the major emergencies of life, which lie, sometimes quite creditably, behind their mothers.
We do good by ourselves, but we seldom do wrong alone.
When you know a person particularly well, you cannot escape their ruffled feelings.
Our responsibility to ourselves comes first -- because in a sense what one is oneself is the responsibility that one has for others!
death ... is not a great affair! Think - it happens once only - to each of us - as birth does. What do you know about being born? that - and no more - will you know about the act of death.
it is the possibilities which are the most terrible things in life.
A red-hot belief in eternal glory is probably the best antidote to human panic that there is.
A man whose every exertion is bent upon showing up the flaws in his wife's character must be at least partially responsible for some of them.
To see a shadow and think it is a tree that is a pity;
but to see a tree and to think it a shadow can be fatal.
... most people are dead, and none of them seem to mind it. One hears a great many complaints about life, doesn't one? And there are people I know who would certainly grumble -- however dead they were -- if there were anything to grumble at.
The two best subjects for conversation are talking shop and making love.
All persecution is a sign of fear; for if we did not fear the power of an opinion different from our own, we should not mind others holding it.
A desire that has never been fulfilled is considerably less acute than one that has been fulfilled and then checked at the source.
... one pets what one degrades; and one has to support what one has enfeebled