Too many of us are hung up on what we don't have, can't have, or won't ever have. We spend too much energy being down, when we could use that same energy – if not less of it – doing, or at least trying to do, some of the things we really want to do.— Terry McMillan
The most unforgettable Terry McMillan quotes that may be undiscovered and unusual
Writing is my shelter. I don't hide behind the words; I use them to dig inside my heart to find the truth.
Pay attention to the things that agitate you. It will tell you a lot about yourself.
Writing is the only place I can be myself and not feel judged.
As a writer, you get to bring attention to something without preaching.
I don't believe in being didactic. So if you dramatize something, you automatically bring attention to it if people read it.
I would like to think that as a result of not just my own experiences, but at least being empathetic and compassionate about other people's experiences and plights and tragedies, that I am affected by it and learn from it.
I'm more interested in interpersonal relationships - between lovers families, siblings. That's why I write about how we treat each other.
Parents can ruin children, and sometimes that's a learned behavior.
Sometimes you can't blame your parents for it, sometimes you can. I think to me, that's what the whole paradox is, is people that have children that don't even know how to raise them.
I would be content being a housewife if I could find the kind of man who wouldn't treat me like one.
don't sabotage your own greatness by succumbing to failure!
It goes without saying that your friends are usually the first to discuss your personal business behind your back.
Good parents have children who do terrible things and vice-versa.
It should be obvious that I wasn't no honor roll student in high school. My favorite class was boys.
I have a big mouth, and over the years, as the eldest of five, I have had a tendency to speak when no one really cared.
There is a price for popularity. Critics look for your weaknesses, your flaws, anything that makes the work seem like a fluke and not seem worthy of all the attention it's getting.
Can't nothing make your life work if you ain't the architect.
I just believe that young people need to be able to learn how to write in their own voice. Just like a musician, you pride yourself on having your own distinct sound.
You know, one of my fears about living alone so long is that you get used to doing everything your own way.
I love writing in first person more than third.
I have to basically suspend my own world. I don't exist. I'm just a conduit. So I can be eight years old. I can be the mother of a kid that you find out certain things I'm not going to say.
I like to think of what happens to characters in good novels and stories as knots--things keep knotting up. And by the end of the story--readers see an unknotting of sorts. Not what you expect, not the easy answers you get on TV, not wash and wear philosophies, but a reproduction of believable, emotional experiences.
My stories are character driven.
I been saying it for years: church is full of sneaky men posing as honest souls, and they are perpetuators our here looking for women just like you, with giant holes in your hearts, and they can smell when you got a good job and when you lonely as hell.
I'm not an angry woman. I'm not bitter.
life is like a jigsaw puzzle, you have to see the whole picture, then put it together piece by piece!
Let me put it this way: when I read, I learned the world was not as small as my house. And that everybody in my home town was not representative of the way people in the world were raised. And that was what saved me.
I've got tons of irreplaceable information inside the soul of this computer.
My mama taught me that anything worth doing in life should be a little scary.
Sometimes I cheat and buy things I used to make from scratch and just doctor them up.
As far as young kids go, my primary interest is to get parents to read to their kids. That’s about the most you can do, I think.
I like doing the readings and the autographing, but the interviewing gets a little tedious because you get asked the same questions every day and sometimes three or four times a day.
We never thought some guy would deliberately fill our hearts with brown sugar and then pour hot water all over it.
I was tired of chasing ghosts, hollow men who were outside my comfort zone, men who had nothing to give me except a rush. It was all I asked for, and all I ever got.
Look, as my mama always said, 'One monkey don't stop no show.
People need to be re - sometimes we need to reinvent ourselves and then get reacquainted with our better selves.
People always have something to say about what you do and how you do it.
It's not that marriage itself is bad; it's the people we marry who give it a bad name.
I'm not trying to be a middle aged centerfold, I just want to look at myself naked and not be disgusted.
If you jump to conclusions, you make terrible landings.
It's amazing how we can make ourselves believe what we want to.
I don't let negative criticism, for the most part, bother me.
money does not guarantee happiness or peace of mind, it can take your mind off things, distract you, but it can't replace the generic stuff a person needs!
I let my characters do the talking, simple as that.
I want to push the fast-forward button until I get back to happy.
I try to create characters that I am fascinated by on some level or intrigued by or can't stand.
You've been killing me inside and I don't want to die like this.
I can't stand that - those women in 'Waiting to Exhale' now.
I can't stand them. But that's because I'm 53 and not 33. But what they were experiencing at 33, I identified with it.
At least be a nice lesbian or you're going to give the rest a bad rap.
Folks want to glow, to leave their worries and dead skin behind.
I take what people feel and think, especially when it's different from, very seriously, and I find it liberating.
We get divorce, we get conned, someone we love dies, or we can't find anybody to love us or somebody breaks our heart and we realize this fairy tale ain't fair. So we suffer.