There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.

β€” Anthony De Mello

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"Why is everyone here so happy except me?" "Because they have learned to see goodness and beauty everywhere," said the Master. "Why don't I see goodness and beauty everywhere?" "Because you cannot see outside of you what you fail to see inside."


These things will destroy the human race: politics without principle, progress without compassion, wealth without work, learning without silence, religion without fearlessness and worship without awareness.


Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance.

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Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance.


If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people.

It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth.


β€Ž"I have no fear of losing u, for you aren't an object of my property, or anyone else's. I love you as you are, without attachment, without fears, without conditions, without egoism, trying not to absorb you. I love you freely because I love your freedom, as well as mine.


One year of life is worth more than twenty years of hibernation.


"What is love?"; "The total absence of fear," said the Master; "What is it we fear?"; "Love," said the Master.


Extend your arms in welcome to the future. The best is yet to come!


There's only one reason why you're not experiencing bliss at this present moment, and it's because you're thinking or focusing on what you don't have....But, right now you have everything you need to be in bliss.


Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.


Because everyone is the same distance from the sun.

Does it really lessen the distance if you live on top of a skyscraper?


Understand your darkness and it will vanish;

then you will know what light is. Understand your nightmare for what it is and it will stop; then you will wake up to reality. Understand your false beliefs and they will drop; then you will know the taste of happiness.


About Anthony De Mello

Quotes 218 sayings
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Birthday October 16

When the eye is unobstructed, the result is sight.

When the ear is unobstructed, the result is hearing. When the mind is unobstructed the result is truth. When the heart is unobstructed, the result is joy and love.


As you identify less and less with the β€œme”, you will be more at ease with everybody and with everything. Do you know why? Because you are no longer afraid of being hurt or not liked. You no longer desire to impress anyone. Can you imagine the relief when you don't have to impress anybody anymore? Oh, what a relief. Happiness at last!


If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future.


Spirituality means waking up. Most people, even though they don't know it, are asleep. They're born asleep, they live asleep, they marry in their sleep, they breed children in their sleep, they die in their sleep without ever waking up. They never understand the loveliness and the beauty of this thing that we call human existence.


Life is easy, life is delightful. It's only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings.


When you come to see you are not as wise today as you thought you were yesterday, you are wiser today.


Understand the obstructions you are putting in the way of love, freedom, and happiness and they will drop. Turn on the light of awareness and the darkness will disappear. Happiness is not something you acquire; love is not something you produce; love is not something you have; love is something that has you.


I'm going to write a book someday and the title will be I'm an Ass, You're an Ass. That's the most liberating, wonderful thing in the world, when you openly admit you're an ass. It's wonderful. When people tell me, You're wrong I say, What can you expect of an ass?


People mistakenly assume that their thinking is done by their head;

it is actually done by the heart which first dictates the conclusion, then commands the head to provide the reasoning that will defend it.


Happiness is not something you acquire;

love is not something you produce; love is not something you have; love is something that has you.


We do not have a fear of the unknown. What we fear is giving up the known.


What, concretely, is Enlightenment ?" "Seeing Reality as it is," said the Master. "Doesn't everyone see Reality as it is?" "Oh, no! Most people see it as they think it is." "What's the difference?" "The difference between thinking you are drowning in a stormy sea and knowing you cannot drown because there isn't any water in sight for miles around.


The way to really live is to die. The passport to living is to imagine yourself in your grave. Imagine you're lying in your coffin....Now look at your problems from that viewpoint. Changes everything, doesn't it?


Step by step, let whatever happens happen.

Real change will come when it is brought about, not by your ego, but by reality. Awareness releases reality to change you.


It is a great mystery that though the human heart longs for Truth, in which alone it finds liberation and delight, the first reaction of human beings to Truth is one of hostility and fear!


A Jesuit once wrote a note to Father Arrupe, his superior general, asking him about the relative value of communism, socialism and capitalism. Father Arrupe gave him a lovely reply. He said, "A system is about as good or as bad as the people who use it." People with golden hearts would make capitalism or communism or socialism work beautifully.


Take away human beings from this planet and life would go on, nature would go on in all its loveliness and violence. Where would the problem be? No problem. You created the problem. You are the problem. You identified with "me" and that is the problem. The feeling is in you, not in reality.


You have within yourself the answer to every question you propose - if you only knew how to look for it. In the Land of the spirit, you cannot walk by the light of someone else's lamp. You want to borrow mine. I'd rather teach you how to make your own.


When God means you to be a healer he sends you patients;

when he makes you a teacher he sends you pupils; when he destines you to be a Master he sends you stories.


What can I do to see Reality as it is?" The master smiled and said, "I have good news and bad news for you, my friend." "What's the bad news?" "There's nothing you can do to see it is a gift." "And what's the good news?" "There's nothing you can do to see it is a gift.


You're so ashamed of your past; drop it! You're so proud of your past; drop it!


What is my identity ?" "Nothing," said the Master.

"You mean that I am an emptiness and a void?" said the incredulous disciple. "Nothing that can be labeled." said the Master.


Enlightenment is: absolute cooperation with the inevitable.


Live your life as you see fit. That's not selfish. Selfish is to demand that others live their lives as you see fit.


Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality.


One day, a philosopher asked, "What is the purpose of creation?" "Lovemaking," said the Master. Later, to his disciples, he said, "Before creation, love was. After creation, love was made. When love is consummated, creation will cease to be, and love will be forever."


Whatever is truly alive must die. Look at the flowers; only plastic flowers never die.


The three most difficult things for a human being are not physical feats or intellectual achievements. They are, first, returning love for hate; second, including the excluded; third, admitting that you are wrong.


Religion is the finger pointing to God.

People are too busy licking the finger to notice where it's pointing.


When you get rid of your fear of failure, your tensions about succeeding.

.. you can be yourself. Relaxed. You'll no longer be driving with your brakes on.


The disciples were absorbed in a discussion of Lao-Tzu's dictum: "Those who know, do not say; Those who say, do not know." When the master entered, they asked him what the words meant. Said the master, "Which of you knows the fragrance of a rose?" All of them indicated that they knew. Then he said, "Put it into words." All of them were silent.


You are only a disciple because your eyes are closed.

The day you open them you will see there is nothing you can learn from me or anyone.


Suffering is given to you that you might open your eyes to the truth.


A disciple was one day recalling how Buddha , Jesus , Mohammed were branded as rebels and heretics by their contemporaries. Said the Master, Nobody can be said to have attained the pinnacle of Truth until a thousand sincere people have denounced him for blasphemy .


All that you give to others you are giving to yourself.


The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom.


The poor think they will be happy when they become rich.

The rich think they will be happy when they are rid of their ulcers.