True compassion means not only feeling another's pain but also being moved to help relieve it.

— Daniel Goleman

The most memorable Daniel Goleman quotes that will add value to your life

If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.

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When it comes to exploring the mind in the framework of cognitive neuroscience, the maximal yield of data comes from integrating what a person experiences - the first person - with what the measurements show - the third person.

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People who are optimistic see a failure as due to something that can be changed so that they can succeed next time around, while pessimists take the blame for the failure, ascribing it to some characteristic they are helpless to change.

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We do well to unplug regularly. Quiet time restores focus and composure.

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Research shows that for jobs of all kinds, emotional intelligence is twice as important an ingredient of outstanding performance as cognitive ability and technical skill combined.

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Simple inattention kills empathy, let alone compassion.

So the first step in compassion is to notice the other's need. It all begins with the simple act of attention.

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There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.

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Empathy represents the foundation skill for all the social competencies important for work.

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Empathetic people are superb at recognizing and meeting the needs of clients, customers, or subordinates. They seem approachable, wanting to hear what people have to say. They listen carefully, picking up on what people are truly concerned about, and respond on the mark.

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One aspect of a successful relationship is not just how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.

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My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs - in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.

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When the eyes of a woman that a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine - but not when she looks elsewhere.

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The best leaders don’t know just one style of leadership—they’re skilled at several, and have the flexibility to switch between styles as the circumstances dictate.

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About Daniel Goleman

Quotes 117 sayings
Nationality American
Profession Author
Birthday October 16

Compassion begins with attention.

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Directing attention toward where it needs to go is a primal task of leadership.

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Societies can be sunk by the weight of buried ugliness.

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When we focus on others, our world expands.

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I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.

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Like secondhand smoke, the leakage of emotions can make a bystander an innocent casualty of someone else's toxic state.

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Doggedness depends on emotional traits - enthusiasm and persistence in the face of setbacks - above all else.

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Great leaders, the research shows, are made as they gradually acquire, in the course of their lives and careers, the competencies that make them so effective. The competencies can be learned by any leader, at any point.

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In the new workplace, with its emphasis on flexibility, teams and a strong customer orientation, this crucial set of emotional competencies is becoming increasingly essential for excellence in every job in every part of the world.

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Empathic, emotionally intelligent work environments have a good track record of increasing creativity, improving problem solving and raising productivity.

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people's emotions are rarely put into words , far more often they are expressed through other cues. the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels , tone of voice , gesture , facial expression and the like

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The book is a dialogue between The Dalai Lama and a group of scientists about how we can better handle our destructive emotions and how to overcome them.

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Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort

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In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels

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Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings.

This is part of teaching emotional literacy - a set of skills we can all develop, including the ability to read, understand, and respond appropriately to one's own emotions and the emotions of others.

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Green is a process, not a status. We need to think of 'green' as a verb, not an adjective.

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We learn best with focused attention.

As we focus on what we're learning, the brain maps that information on what we already know making new neural connections

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Although traditional incentives such as bonuses or recognition can prod people to better performance, no external motivators can get people to perform at their absolute best. . . .Wherever people gravitate within their work roles, indicates where their real pleasure lies—and that pleasure is itself motivating.

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Emotional self-control is NOT the same as overcontrol, the stifling of all feeling and spontaneity....when such emotional suppression is chronic, it can impair thinking, hamper intellectual performance and interfere with smooth social interaction. By contrast, emotional competence implies we have a choice as to how we express our feelings.

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The amygdala in the emotional center sees and hears everything that occurs to us instantaneously and is the trigger point for the fight or flight response.

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Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.

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Women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, show more empathy, and are more adept interpersonally. Men on the other hand, are more self-confident and optimistic, adapt more easily, and handle stress better.

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When I say manage emotions, I only mean the really distressing, incapacitating emotions. Feeling emotions is what makes life rich. You need your passions.

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Gifted leadership occurs when heart and head--feeling and thought--meet.

These are the two winds that allow a leader to soar.

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CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise - and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence.

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Emotions are contagious. We've all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.

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....goal directed self-imposed delay of gratification is perhaps the essence of emotional self-regulation: the ability to deny impulse in the service of a goal, whether it be building a business, solving an algebraic equation, or pursuing the Stanley Cup.

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When the darkness is seen as a necessary prelude to the creative light, one is less likely to ascribe frustration to personal inadequacy or label it as bad.

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I think the smartest thing for people to do to manage very distressing emotions is to take a medication if it helps, but don't do only that. You also need to train your mind.

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A leader tuned out of his internal world will be rudderless;

one blind to the world of others will be clueless; those indifferent to the larger systems within which they operate will be blindsided.

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The Harvard Business Review recently had an article called 'The Human Moment,' about how to make real contact with a person at work: ... The fundamental thing you have to do is turn off your BlackBerry, close your laptop, end your daydream and pay full attention to the person.

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What seems to set apart those at the very top of competitive pursuits from others of roughly equal ability is the degree to which, beginning early in life, they can pursue an arduous practice routine for years and years.

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Remember, empathy need not lead to sympathetically giving in to the other side’s demands—knowing how someone feels does not mean agreeing with them.

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The task of worrying is to come up with positive solutions for life's perils by anticipating dangers before they arise. If we are preoccupied by worries, we have that must less attention to expend on figuring out the answers. Our worries become self-fulfilling prophecies, propelling us toward the very disaster they predict.

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The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication.

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What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills - your EQ - not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.

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Cognitive skills such as big-picture thinking and long-term vision were particularly important. But when I calculated the ratio of technical skills, IQ, and emotional intelligence as ingredients of excellent performance, emotional intelligence proved to be twice as important as the others for jobs at all levels.

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