110+ Deb Caletti Quotes On Friendship, Education And Death

Deb Caletti is an American writer of young adult and adult fiction. She is best known for her award-winning novels such as The Nature of Jade and Honey, Baby, Sweetheart. Her books often focus on themes of family, relationships, and mental health. Following is our collection on famous quotes by Deb Caletti on love, friendship, education.

Top 10 Deb Caletti Quotes

1. Marriage is like a well-built porch. If one of the two posts leans too much, the porch collapses. So each must be strong enough to stand on its own.
2. ...wanting things for the wrong reasons can turn anyone's life into a marshmallow on a stick over a hot fire: impossibly messy and eventually consumed, one way or another.
3. That's what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you're not so lovable.
4. The loneliness you feel with another person, the wrong person, is the loneliest of all.
5. You've got to have someone who loves your body. Who doesn't define you, but sees you. Who loves what he sees. Who you don't have to struggle to be good enough for.
6. We don't want you convicted for condiment theft. You go to that prison, you'll meet big-time operators. Maple syrup stealers.
7. We can get so wrapped up in our own misconceptions that we miss the simple beauty of the truth.
8. It was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though you didn't have something in the first place. I guess that's what disappointment is- a sense of loss for something you never had.
9. If time heals all wounds, and a book can hold a person's entire life, then you can speed up the process with a pulp time warp.
10. To an untrained eye, need and love were as easily mistaken for each other as the real master's painting and a forgery.

Deb Caletti Short Quotes

• Cool superiority as a mask for overflowing insecurity.
• Things that came apart could be put together again, but never exactly the same.
• A lot of life is just surviving what happens.
• When what you want is a relationship, and not a person, get a dog.
• They never told you that stranger might be someone you knew.
• Sometimes good choices are really bad ones, wrapped up in so much fear you can't even see straight.
• People are secretive when they have secrets.
• Just because it turned out bad, doesn’t mean it wasn’t meant.
• We should not give away a moment to anyone who does not deserve it.
• I became a writer because I love books, and I believe in their power.

Deb Caletti Quotes About Love

I vow... "to not let the back & forth of forgiveness interrupt the steadiness of love. — Deb Caletti

Because words were hills and valleys you traveled, so lovely sometimes that they hurt your eyes. — Deb Caletti

Summer, after all, is a time when wonderful things can happen to quiet people. — Deb Caletti

So I put up with bad behavior in the name of loving the way I thought you were supposed to love. — Deb Caletti

Too often in my life, love has been defined as "humiliation with occasional roses". — Deb Caletti

I shouldn't have to be a liar to make someone love me. I shouldn't be so afraid of losing someone that I'll do anything to make them stay. — Deb Caletti

She would bring you some great book because she was a book matchmaker, because she loved books the way other girls loved clothes. — Deb Caletti

It's shocking the things we call love. — Deb Caletti

Love seems to be something to approach with caution, as if you'd come across a wrapped box in the middle of the street and have no idea what it contains. — Deb Caletti

The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple. — Deb Caletti

Deb Caletti Quotes About Thoughtful

Becoming a YA author was actually a very lucky accident. When I wrote the Queen of Everything, I thought it was a book for adults. — Deb Caletti

I kept trying to talk myself out of my second thoughts when they were trying to help me. My advice? When it comes to relationships, second thoughts should be promoted. — Deb Caletti

You can hold a secret, hold it so far in that it drives nearly every thought and every move you make- your very heartbeat, almost. — Deb Caletti

I thought I might cry, the way you do when someone gives you some kindness when you most need it but when it seems the most surprising thing. — Deb Caletti

I'd always thought telling the truth to other people was hard, but maybe that was a snap compared to telling the truth to yourself. Sometimes we just refused to know what we knew. — Deb Caletti

Beaches, music, and car rides—they could all bring on a sudden bout of deep, dreamy thoughts. — Deb Caletti

It's good to let God pick a man for you. We don't do so well when we pick them ourselves. They end up lipsticks in a drawer, all those wrong colors you thought looked so good in the package. — Deb Caletti

Deb Caletti Famous Quotes And Sayings

You have ordinary moments and ordinary moments and more ordinary moments, and then, suddenly, there is something monumental right there. You have past and future colliding in the present, your own personal Big Bang, and nothing will ever be the same. — Deb Caletti

Sometimes you think you've found love, when it's really just one of those objects that are shiny in a certain light--a trophy, say, or a ring, or a diamond, even. Glass shards, maybe. You've got to be careful, you do. The shine can blind you. The edges can cut you in way you never imagined. It is up to you to allow that or not. — Deb Caletti

Love." She looked at me with those blue eyes. "Isn't it astonishing how confused and complicated such a small,simple word is? It attracts so many other things, doesn't it, that stick to it like barnacles on rock...fear, guilt. Need. You can't even see the rock anymore. I imagine love in its purest form is a rare thing. — Deb Caletti

Love was also an easy word, used carelessly. Felons and creeps could offer it coated in sugar, and users could dangle it so enticingly that you wouldn't notice that it had things attached - heavy things, things like pity and need, that were weighty as anchors and iron beams and just as impossible to get out from underneath. — Deb Caletti

This is what I know. Don't settle for 40, 50, or even 80 percent. A relationship-it shouldn't be too small or too tight or even a little scratchy. It shouldn't take up space in your closet out of guilty conscience or convenience or a moment of desire. Do you hear me? It shold be perfect for you. It should be lasting. Wait. wait for 100 percent. — Deb Caletti

I finally learned that it was all right to say something wasn’t working for me when it wasn’t working. The world doesn’t come crashing down when you speak the truth. — Deb Caletti

Here, kitty, kitty, Chico says. The cover of his cage is still on, making his tiny clown voice slightly muffled. I feel bad for him under there, just waiting to start his evil little day...Freud walks toward Chico in his slinky fashion, sits under his cage and just stares. We have satanic pets...our pets seem to have made a pact with the devil. — Deb Caletti

Once, I had to drive Oliver to soccer, was ten minutes late, and learned that there had apparently been a misprint in the Bible on the Ten Commandments thing: Thou shalt not murder, thou shalt not commit adultery, thou shalt not be late to soccer. My father was so pissed, I practically had to get the lightning bolt surgically removed from my back. — Deb Caletti

The magic of purpose and of love in its purest form. Not televison love, with its glare and hollow and sequined glint; not sex and allure, all high shoes and high drama, everything both too small and in too much excess, but just love. Love like rain, like the smell of a tangerine, like a surprise found in your pocket. — Deb Caletti

I put the guitar back in the case. I can't even look at it anymore. Instead, I want to make brownies. I want an end result there's a recipe for. I want to combine eggs and water and oil and chocolate and flour and sugar and vanilla and get something fulfilling. — Deb Caletti

A lady I will be, but a man's accessory, his handbag, no thank you. I will not be someone's ornament. I will not just be someone's honey, baby, sweetheart. — Deb Caletti

I've heard that people stand in bad situations because a relationship like that gets turned up by degrees. It is said that a frog will jump out of a pot of boiling water. Place him in a pot and turn it up a little at a time, and he will stay until he is boiled to death. Us frogs understand this. — Deb Caletti

Sometimes I’ve even wished there was a human pause button, where you could choose some point in your life where you could stay always. — Deb Caletti

If letting go, if letting people and things work themselves out in the way that they needed to without your help was the most important thing, then it was also the hardest. — Deb Caletti

Bliss is the ocean, a towel on the sand, the sun out, the chance to swim in waves or walk dragging a stick behind you, a good book, a cold drink. — Deb Caletti

Accents are funny in that they have this odd draw for us, yet we forget we have one, too. No one is without an accent, but the one you’ve got seems like oatmeal to their caviar. — Deb Caletti

Anyway, madness and genius. They're the disturbed pals of the human condition. The Bonnie and Clyde, the Thelma and Louise, the baking soda and vinegar. Insanity just walks alongside the brilliant like some creepy, insistent shadow. — Deb Caletti

Funny the only two times we use the phrase "seeing someone" are when we are referring to being in a a relationship or getting psychological help. — Deb Caletti

Stories took twists and turns down fairy-tale paths or down very human everyday ones. You think you’re at the end of the book, and it’s only the end of a chapter. — Deb Caletti

A drop of poison on that gathering snow. That moment in the fairy tale when we know what just happened but the princess doesn’t. — Deb Caletti

It can be exhausting eating a meal cooked by a man. With a woman, it's, Ho hum, pass the beans. A guy, you have to act like he just built the Taj Mahal. — Deb Caletti

This is what happens when nice people are pushed too far. We give too many chances, and so when we've finally had enough, we are well and truly done. When a nice person shuts a door on you, it's shut for good. — Deb Caletti

I guess forgiveness, like happiness, isn’t a final destination. You don’t one day get there and get to stay. — Deb Caletti

Sometimes you're sure dogs have some secret, superior intelligence, and other times you know they're only their simple, goofy selves. — Deb Caletti

I've wished for things and never really had the chance...It's time to stop dreaming and do something about it. You've got to know what you want, then...go. — Deb Caletti

At the root of every large struggle in life is the need to be honest about something that we do not feel we can be honest about. We lie to ourselves or other people because the truth might require action on our part, and action requires courage. We say we “don’t know” what is wrong, when we do know what is wrong; we just wish we didn’t. Art lets us tell the truth, but even art can be something to hide behind. — Deb Caletti

But sometimes, too, you have this little feeling of knowing, this fuzzy, gnawing sense that someone will become a major something in your life. You just know that theirs will be a life you will enter and become a part of. — Deb Caletti

Cars are all jammed up all along the road and a light turns red and someone honks. In every one of those cars there is a story or a hundred stories. For every light on in al of those huge city buildings there is a story. No one knows what I am about to face and no one knows my story and neither do I right then. — Deb Caletti

Another person is, at the heart of it, unknowable. And if you cannot know a person enough to always guess what they’re capable of, you certainly cannot know them enough to hold them in your hands, to control their behavior, to fight, manipulate, cajole or nurse or soothe them into doing what they should or shouldn’t. People will do what they will do. The trick is admitting your own helplessness about that little fact. — Deb Caletti

It makes you realize how basically everything we do comes down to a) mating or b) competing for resources. It’s just like Animal Planet, only we’ve got Cover Girl and Victoria’s Secret instead of colored feathers and fancy markings, and the violence occurs at the Nordstrom’s Half-Yearly Sale. — Deb Caletti

I grow green beans in my garden. The one thing I know about harvesting them is that you need to train your eyes to see the beans. At first it all looks like leaves, until you see one bean and then another and another. If you want clarity, too, you have to look hard. You have to look under things and look from different angles. You'll see what you need to when you do that. A hundred beans, suddenly. — Deb Caletti

Ive never met a popcorn ball I didnt like. — Deb Caletti

You could try and understand people, you could read books and understand words and concepts and ideas, but you could never understand enough or have enough knowledge to keep away the surprises that both fate and human beings had in store. — Deb Caletti

We had lain together, skin on skin, been as close as two people could, and he was a stranger. He was that someone who you are afraid of as a child, stranger. They never told you that stranger might be someone you knew. — Deb Caletti

...we are all a volume on the shelf of the... library, a story unto ourselves, never possibly described with one word or even very accurately with thousands. — Deb Caletti

If you don't participate, you're just taking up oxygen. (Bunny) Life is a banquet. Approach it with hunger. (Chuck) — Deb Caletti

Blessed books—they’re a place to be alone, and no one else can come in. — Deb Caletti

The way two people can end up in the same place, find each other in a crowd, and change their lives and the lives of the people around them forever... It makes you believe in fate. And fate gives love some authority. Like it's been stamped with approval from above, if you believe in above. A godly green light. Some destined significance. — Deb Caletti

she wonders if we feel more regret for the things we do or for the things we didn't do — Deb Caletti

Maybe we all just wanted someone to believe in. That's all each of us wanted, and it should be so simple, but it never was simple. — Deb Caletti

You … You had always made the future feel safe. As long as you were in it too, beside me, I could be okay. — Deb Caletti

Yeah. When you want what's real and you try to find that in high school, you might as well be looking for a mossy rock beside a babbling brook on the corner of Sixth and Pine in downtown Seattle. — Deb Caletti

Once an asshole, always an asshole. — Deb Caletti

The most insane things can become normal if you have them around you long enough. A mind can’t seem to hold anything too crazy for too long without finding a way to make it seem normal. — Deb Caletti

All of us create our own versions of an event, of our lives, even, not because were liars, necessarily, but because we can only see and understand the truth from our own viewpoint, and a shifting viewpoint at that. — Deb Caletti

I wondered if parents had an easier time with the secrets their children kept than children did with the secrets of their parents. A parent's secrets seemed like some sort of betrayal, where my own just seemed like a fact of life and growing up and away. I was supposed to be independent, but he was supposed to be available. Him having his own life seemed selfish, where me having my own was the right order of things. — Deb Caletti

Are you getting your period?" She narrows her eyes. No! God. I hate that. I hate when every negative act is blamed on your period." Sometimes bitchiness is just bitchiness, happily unattached to anything hormonal. It should get full credit. — Deb Caletti

I don't get why prom is like a mini-wedding these days...No one should spend that kind of money for a high school dance. — Deb Caletti

The hurt affects your ability to go forward. — Deb Caletti

Sometimes you can cattle rope your heart and sometimes you can't, is all. — Deb Caletti

It's strange, isn't it, how the idea of belonging to someone can sound so great? It can be comforting, the way it makes things decided. We like the thought of being held, until it's too tight. We like that certainty, until it means there's no way out. And we like being his, until we realize we're not ours anymore. — Deb Caletti

Supposedly there's an actual, researched link between extreme creativity and mental illness, and I believe it because I've seen it with my own eyes. — Deb Caletti

Look right at it. Know you can." Dad said. "Look right at that fear. Fear is the biggest bullshitter. — Deb Caletti

It’s a simple truth that a secret is something you’re ashamed of. — Deb Caletti

... But then again, a person could turn ugly. Their actual look could change when their actions were repulsive. — Deb Caletti

And if you could make a choice, then why not pick happiness? — Deb Caletti

I may be nervous," I say. "Okay, I'm really glad you said that, because I just went to the back room to put on more deodorant." Sebastian says. — Deb Caletti

The scariest part of forever is that nothing is. — Deb Caletti

Control was just wishful thinking, and you controlled things to hedge your bets, to be safe, to guard against loss. — Deb Caletti

When you're not sure whether you're in love with someone or not, the answer is not. — Deb Caletti

I know parental embarrassment usually stops somewhere at fifteen, but he just kept on giving me good reasons. — Deb Caletti

But an apology too — you think you’re giving something, but you’re not. You’re really asking for something. You’re asking for forgiveness, you’re asking for the other injured person to make it okay for you. Apologies were harder work for the person getting one than the person giving one. — Deb Caletti

so what brings you to the doctor today?" "hmm, im afraid i have the chronic desire to save people" "i know about that. i've got it too. maybe it's catching." "not catching enough — Deb Caletti

Although I love snow, it messes things up terribly around Seattle, with all of our hills. I worry about my loved ones driving. — Deb Caletti

A dog — a dog teaches us so much about love. Wordless, imperfect love; love that is constant, love that is simple goodness, love that forgives not only bad singing and embarrassments, but misunderstandings and harsh words. Love that sits and stays and stays and stays, until it finally becomes its own forever. Love, stronger than death. A dog is a four-legged reminder that love comes and time passes and then your heart breaks. — Deb Caletti

You could put your confusion and upset and worries into whatever book you were reading. You could sort of set them down in there, and you could come out with your head on a little straighter. I don't why stories worked that way, but they did. — Deb Caletti

Love with someone else, an actual person, was another matter. People got hurt doing that. People cried and wrapped their arms around themselves and rocked with loss. Loving words got turned to fierce, sharp, whip-cracks of anger that lefft permanent marks. At the least, it disappointed you. At most, it damaged you. — Deb Caletti

We are all a volume on a shelf of a library, a story unto ourselves, never possibly described with one word or even very accurately with thousands. A person is never as quiet or unrestrained as they seem, or as bad or good, as vulnerable or as strong, as sweet or as fiesty; we are thickly layered, page upon lying page, behind simple covers. And love - it is not the book itself, but the binding. It can rip us apart or hold us together. — Deb Caletti

But what I wanted back had never really been there. He was a temporary illusion, a mirage of water after walking in the desert. I had made him up. And he could have killed me. You've got to stop the ride sometimes. Stop it and get off. — Deb Caletti

This was what happened after you'd been together with someone a long time. You loved that it was old and worn and comfy, but sometimes it was old and worn and comfy. — Deb Caletti

There are so many different fifteens. And eighteens. And forty-twos, for that matter. Mature fifteens and young fifteens and wise fifteens and lost fifteens. And angry fifteens. — Deb Caletti

I would have spoken, had my heart not been in my throat — Deb Caletti

If your life truths have to be protected like some people keep their couches in plastic then ciao. have a nice life. if we bump into eachoter at Target, i'm the one buying the sour gummy worms and thats all you need to know about me. — Deb Caletti

So I forcibly shove aside my prickles of pissed-off, which is easier than it sounds when millions of little sequined caffeine dancers are doing their big Broadway number on your internal stage. (Page 173) — Deb Caletti

In the middle of the night I am awakened by a sound. I sit up abruptly in bed. I hear it again. It's music. Wait, it sounds like the ice cream man, in our house. Is this some kind of twisted nightmare? The flipping ice cream man, breaking in to chop us all up in our beds to the tune of 'Zippity Do Dah'?... My heart slows. I remember. There is no psycho ice cream man here. It is just our new musical soap dispenser. — Deb Caletti

It was all the things you could never understand and could never possess that made you ache. — Deb Caletti

I felt a constant, low-flying desperation, the kind you feel when you are trying, trying, trying to get something you will never, ever get. — Deb Caletti

It made me wonder how many times we forgive just because we don't want to lose someone, even if they don't deserve our forgiveness. — Deb Caletti

We're as good at talking ourselves out of fear as into it, aren't we? Maybe better. — Deb Caletti

They say religion is about love, but you wonder how much of it really is about fear. — Deb Caletti

Life Lessons by Deb Caletti

1. Deb Caletti's work emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-care, teaching readers to prioritize their own needs and feelings.
2. Through her stories, she encourages readers to be brave and take risks, even when they feel scared or uncertain.
3. Deb Caletti also highlights the power of relationships and the importance of connecting with others, showing readers the value of friendship and family.