Love, the magician, knows this little trick whereby two people walk in different directions yet always remain side by side.— Hugh Prather
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perfectionism is a slow death. if everything were to turn out just like i would want it to, just like i would plan for it to, then i would never experience anything new; my life would be an endless repetition of stale successes. when i make a mistake i experience something unexpected.... when i have listened to my mistakes i have grown.
It is enough that I am of value to somebody today.
A messy mortal is my friend. Come walk with me in the mud.
There is a time to let things happen and a time to make things happen.
True humor is fun - it does not put down, kid, or mock.
It makes people feel wonderful, not separate, different, and cut off. True humor has beneath it the understanding that we are all in this together.
Being myself includes taking risks with myself, taking risks on new behavior, trying new ways of 'being myself', so that I can see who it is I want to be.
I can't be found in myself; I discover myself in others. That much is clear. And I suspect that I also love and care for myself in others.
The fatal mistake is waiting for life's circumstances to be right before we begin. Simply begin with your heart, look deeply into it and trust what you feel. Practice knowing and you will know.
Stands must be taken. If I am to respect myself I have to search myself for what I believe is right and take a stand on what I find. Otherwise, I have not gathered together what I have been given; I have not embraced what I have learned; I lack my own conviction.
Live as if everything you do will eventually be known.
Almost any difficulty will move in the face of honesty.
When I am honest I never feel stupid. And when I am honest I am automatically humble.
Support your friends - even in their mistakes.
But be clear, however, that it is the friend and not the mistake you are supporting.
Life is also a mixture of unsolved problems, ambiguous victories and vague defeats-with very few moments of clear peace.
If my attention is wandering, there is somewhere it wants to go, so obviously it does not want to be where I am holding it in the name of some self-styled obligation.
If a man takes off his sunglasses I can hear him better.
Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes.
The components of happiness are quite simple.
Happiness is gentleness, peace, concentration, simplicity, forgiveness, humor, fearlessness, trust, and now. In its true form each quality includes all the rest, for happiness is whole, and one feels whole when genuinely happy.
If your reaction to your partner's fear-or any other form of distress- is disdain or irritation, you do not want oneness or even friendship with your partner at that moment.
There were seventy-five people in the lobby and only a seven-year-old girl was finding out what it felt like to sit on the Marble Floor
But it's morning. Within my hands is another day. Another day to listen and love and walk and glory. I am here for another day.
Whenever I find myself arguing for something with great passion, I can be certain I'm not convinced.
By approaching my problems with "What might make things a little better?" rather than "What is the solution?" I avoid setting myself up for certain frustration. My experience has shown me that I am not going to solve anything in one stroke; at best I am only going to chip away at it.
Moods should be heard but never danced to.
We feel understood by people who like us;
misunderstood by people who don't -- and those feelings are probably realistic.
Negative feedback is better that none.
I would rather have a man hate me than overlook me. As long as he hates me I make a difference.
The first step of letting go: To remove what obstructs your experience of wholeness and peace, you must first look at the obstruction.
To live for results would be to sentence myself to continuous frustration.
My only sure reward is in my actions and not from them.
One element of maturity is the realization that we don't get away with anything.
Any advantage gained or convenience taken, any private procrastination or insincerity, no matter how subtle or quick in passing, is paid for.
Boredom is useful to me when I notice it and think: Oh I'm bored;
there must be something else I want to be doing... boredom acts as an initiator of originality by pushing me into new activities or new thoughts.
Perfectionism is slow death.
When someone disagrees with me, I do not have to immediately start revising what I just said. People don't want me to always agree with them. They can sense this is phony. They can sense I am trying to control them: I am agreeing with them to make them like me. They feel; "I don't want to exist to like you. I DON'T exist to like you."
Unless I accept my faults, I will most certainly doubt my virtues.
Fears, indecision, and frustration feed on words.
Without words they usually stop. . . . Words are at times good for looking back, but they are confining when I need to act in the present.
When I have listened to my mistakes, I have grown.
I like a man with faults, especially when he knows it. To err is human
Before, I thought I was actually fighting for my own self-worth;
that is why I so desperately wanted people to like me. I thought their liking me was a comment on me, but it was a comment on them.
I don't need a "reason" to be happy. I don't have to consult the future to know how happy I feel now.
Love itself is not an act of will, but sometimes I need the force of my volition to break with my habitual responses and pass along the love already here.
You are only young once, but you can stay immature indefinitely.
You are only young once, then you need another reason to act foolish. You are the only authority on what is best for you.
No matter what we talk about, we are talking about ourselves
Today I acknowledge that I am not in position to judge what mistakes anyone is making or what lessons anyone needs to learn. I don’t know how far someone has come or when that person will have a breakthrough, I simply don’t know what other people should be doing. But when I think I do know, I clearly am not doing what I should be doing, which is taking responsibility for my own life.
All my life, I have made it complicated, but it is so simple.
I love when I love. And when I love, I am myself.
My prayer is: I will be what I will be, I will do what I will do.
Problems assault us to the degree they preoccupy us.
The key to release, rest, and inner freedom is not the elimination of all external difficulties. It is letting go of our pattern of reactions to those difficulties.
Next time I will ..." "From now on I will ..." - What makes me think I am wiser today than I will be tomorrow?
There is no place love is not.
It is your right to be happy. This is what you were made for. And if you will not resist, happiness will find a way to pour from your heart and fill your days.
I sometimes react to making a mistake as if I have betrayed myself.
My fear of making a mistake seems to be based on the hidden assumption that I am potentially perfect and that if I can just be very careful I will not fall from heaven. But a 'mistake' is a declaration of the way I am, a jolt to the way I intend, a reminder I am not dealing with the facts. When I have listened to my mistakes I have grown.