Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.

— M. Scott Peck

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Until you value yourself, you won't value your time.

Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.

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The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.

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Emotional sickness is avoiding reality at any cost. Emotional health is facing reality at any cost.

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Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth... Love is as love does. Love is an act of will -- namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.

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The overall purpose of human communication is - or should be - reconciliation.

It should ultimately serve to lower or remove the walls of misunderstanding which unduly separate us human beings, one from another.

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The quickest way to change your attitude toward pain is to accept the fact that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth.

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Community [is] a group of individuals who have learned how to communicate honestly with each other, whose relationships go deeper than their masks of composure, and who have developed some significant commitment to "rejoice together, mourn together," and to "delight in each other, make others' conditions our own.

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Human beings are poor examiners, subject to superstition, bias, prejudice, and a PROFOUND tendency to see what they want to see rather than what is really there.

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The key to community is the acceptance, in fact the celebration of our individual and cultural differences. It is also the key to world peace

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The whole course of human history may depend on a change of heart in one solitary and even humble individual - for it is in the solitary mind and soul of the individual that the battle between good and evil is waged and ultimately won or lost.

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We must be willing to fail and to appreciate the truth that often "Life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived.

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Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.

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About M. Scott Peck

Quotes 147 sayings
Nationality American
Profession Psychologist
Birthday October 16

Since the primary motive of the evil is disguise, one of the places evil people are most likely to be found is within the church. What better way to conceal one's evil from oneself as well as from others than to be a deacon or some other highly visible form of Christian within our culture

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Life is complex. Each one of us must make his own path through life. There are no self-help manuals, no formulas, no easy answers. The right road for one is the wrong road for another...The journey of life is not paved in blacktop; it is not brightly lit, and it has no road signs. It is a rocky path through the wilderness.

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Community is and must be inclusive. The great enemy of community is exclusivity. Groups that exclude others because they are poor or doubters or divorced or sinners or of some different race or nationality are not communities; they are cliques--actually defensive bastions against community.

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The major threats to our survival no longer stem from nature without but from our own human nature within. It is our carelessness, our hostilities, our selfishness and pride and willful ignorance that endanger the world.

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When you consider yourself valuable you will take care of yourself in all ways that are necessary.

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When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion - through the fact that for that someone (or for ourself) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful.

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The giving up of personality traits, well-established patterns of behavior, ideologies, and even whole life styles...these are major forms of giving up that are required if one is to travel very far on the journey of life.

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God creates each soul differently, so that when all the mud is finally cleared away, His light will shine through it in a beautiful, colorful, totally new pattern.

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Abandon the urge to simplify everything, to look for formulas and easy answers, and to begin to think multidimensionally, to glory in the mystery and paradoxes of life, not to be dismayed by the multitude of causes and consequences that are inherent in each experience -- to appreciate the fact that life is complex.

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An unconscious, gentle process whereby people who want to be loving attempt to be so by telling little white lies, by withholding some of the truth about themselves and their feelings in order to avoid conflict. Pseudocommunity is conflict-avoiding; true community is conflict-resolving.

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Integrity is never painless.

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Evil people hate the light because it reveals themselves to themselves.

... They will destroy the light, the goodness, the love in order to avoid the pain of self-awareness. ... [E]vil is laziness carried to its ultimate, extraordinary extreme.

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Servant-leadership is more than a concept, it is a fact.

Any great leader, by which I also mean an ethical leader of any group, will see herself or himself as a servant of that group and will act accordingly.

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When we cling, often forever, to our old patterns of thinking and behaving, we fall to negotiate any crisis, to truly grow up, and to experience the joyful sense of rebirth that accompanies the successful transition into greater maturity.

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Genuine love not only respects the individuality of the other but actually cultivates it, even at the risk of separation or loss. The ultimate goal of life remains the spiritual growth of the individual, the solitary journey to peaks that can be climbed only alone.

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It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.

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Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it.

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We skim over the surface thoughtlessly.

But we must acknowledge that thinking well is a time-consuming process. We can't expect instant results. We have to slow down a bit, and take the time to contemplate, meditate, and even pray. It is the only route to a more meaningful and efficient existence.

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You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.

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The path of spiritual growth is a path of lifelong learning.

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The symptoms and the illness are not the same thing.

The illness exists long before the symptoms. Rather than being the illness, the symptoms are the beginning of its cure. The fact that they are unwanted makes them all the more a phenomenon of grace — a gift of God, a message from the unconscious.

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Nirvana or lasting enlightenment or true spiritual growth can be achieved only through persistent exercise of real love.

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Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and wisdom.

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Whenever we seek to avoid the responsibility for our own behavior, we do so by attempting to give that responsibility to some other individual or organization or entity. But this means we then give away our power to that entity.

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I define love thus: The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.

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When I am with a group of human beings committed to hanging in there through both the agony and the joy of community, I have a dim sense that I am participating in a phenomenon for which there is only one word...."glory."

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God wants us to become himself or herself or itself.

We are growing toward Godhood. God is the goal of evolution.

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Commitment is inherent in any genuinely loving relationship.

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Idealists are people who believe in the potential of human nature for transformation. . . . The most essential attribute of human nature is its mutability and freedom from instinct . . . it is always within our power to change our nature. So it is actually the idealists who are on the mark and the realists who are off base.

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What does a life of total dedication to truth mean? It means, first of all, a life of continuous and never-ending stringent self-examination. We know the world only through our relationship to it. Therefore, to know the world, we must not only examine it but we must simultaneously examine the examiner.

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The principal form that the work of love takes is attention.

When we love another person we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person's growth.

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Although the act of nurturing another's spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one's own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.

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Everything that happens in life is there to aid our spiritual growth.

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As Benjamin Franklin said, 'Those things that hurt, instruct.

' It is for this reason that wise people learn not to dread but actually to welcome problems and actually to welcome the pain of problems.

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I have learned nothing in twenty years that would suggest that evil people can be rapidly influenced by any means other than raw power. They do not respond, at least in the short run, to either gentle kindness or any form of spiritual persuasion with which I am familiar.

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It is our task-our essential, central, crucial task-to transform ourselves from mere social creatures into community creatures.

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The best decision-makers are those who are willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain their ability to be decisive.

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