I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.

— Virginia Satir

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We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.

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We get together on the basis of our similarities; we grow on the basis of our differences.

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I want you to get excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you. I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now.

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Virginia Satir quote We must not allow others' limited percep

We must not allow others' limited perceptions to define us.

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Life is not what it's supposed to be.

It's what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.

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It is now clear to me that the family is a microcosm of the world.

To understand the world, we can study the family: issues such as power, intimacy, autonomy, trust, and communication skills are vital parts underlying how we live in the world. To change the world is to change the family.

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Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.

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We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.

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I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.

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Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.

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Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.

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The symbol in Chinese for crisis is made up of two ideographs: one means danger, the other means opportunity. This symbol is a reminder that we can choose to turn a crisis into an opportunity or into a negative experience.

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I think if I have one message, one thing before I die that most of the world would know, it would be that the event does not determine how to respond to the event. That is a purely personal matter. The way in which we respond will direct and influence the event more than the event itself.

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About Virginia Satir

Quotes 55 sayings
Nationality American
Profession Psychologist
Birthday October 16

Parents teach in the toughest school in the world - The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, the classroom teacher, and the janitor.

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I have talked about choosing rather than acting from compulsion.

When you feel that you have to live according to someone else's direction or live so that you never disappoint or hurt anybody, then your life is a continual assessment of whether or not you please other people.

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The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand, and touch another person.

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I want to appreciate you without judging.

Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.

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We can learn something new anytime we believe we can.

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What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.

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Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.

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Rearing a family is probably the most difficult job in the world.

It resembles two business firms merging their respective resources to make a single product. All the potential headaches of that operation are present when an adult male and an adult female join to steer a child from infancy to adulthood.

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The full life is filled with vulnerability, not defense. You face whatever feeling there is.

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The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.

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I feel that adolescence has served its purpose when a person arrives at adulthood with a strong sense of self-esteem, the ability to relate intimately, to communicate congruently, to take responsibility, and to take risks. The end of adolescence is the beginning of adulthood. What hasn't been finished then will have to be finished later.

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I know people can change-right down to my bones, through every cell, in every fiber of my body-I now that people can change. It is just a question of when and in what context.

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No one's fingerprints are exactly the same as anyone else's.

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Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy.

. . . I have often said to parents, "If it isn't illegal, immoral, orfattening, give it your blessing." We do much better . . . if we find and support all the places we can appropriately say yes, and say only the no's that really matter.

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A growing body of clinical observation has pointed to the conclusion that the family therapy must be oriented to the family as a whole.

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My dream is to make families a place where adults with high self esteem can develop. I think we have reached a point where if we don't get busy on dreams of this sort, our end is in sight. We need a world that is as good for human beings as it is for technology.

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Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.

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Families and societies are small and large versions of one another.

Both are made up of people who have to work together, whose destinies are tied up with one another. Each features the components of a relationship: leaders perform roles relative to the led, the young to the old, and male to female; and each is involved with the process of decision-making, use of authority, and the seeking of common goals.

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The Problem is never the problem! It is only a symptom of something much deeper.

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It's sad that children cannot know their parents when they were younger;

when they were loving, courting, and being nice to one another. By the time children are old enough to observe, the romance has all too often faded or gone underground.

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Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.

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You have all played a significant part in my development of loving.

As a result, my life has been rich and full, so I leave feeling very grateful.

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Taste everything, but swallow only what fits.

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I am me and I am okay.

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There are five freedoms: The freedom to see and hear what is;

The freedom to say what you feel and think; The freedom to feel what you actually feel; The freedom to ask for what you want; The freedom to take risks on your own behalf.

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Once a human being has arrived on this earth, communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships he makes with others and what happens to him in the world about him.

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Put together all the existing families and you have society.

It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.

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You have learned what you have learned very well. It has helped you survive.

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We need to see ourselves as basic miracles.

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People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty

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Our biggest problem as human beings is not knowing that we don't know.

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I give life to that which I notice. What I don't notice dies.

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Many people are living in an emotional jail without realizing it.

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It is O. K. for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways.

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Why Family Therapy...because it deals with family pain.

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Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy.

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I regard (parenting) as the hardest, most complicated, anxiety-ridden, sweat-and-blood-producing job in the world. Succeeding requires the ultimate in patience, common sense, commitment, humor, tact, love, wisdom, awareness, and knowledge. At the same time, it holds the possibility for the most rewarding, joyous experience of a lifetime, namely, that of being successful guides to a new and unique human being.

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