With meditation I found a ledge above the waterfall of my thoughts.— Mary Pipher
The most pleasurable Mary Pipher quotes that will activate your desire to change
Adolescence is when girls experience social pressure to put aside their authentic selves and to display only a small portion of their gifts.
People come here penniless but not cultureless.
They bring us gifts. We can synthesize the best of our traditions with the best of theirs. We can teach and learn from each other to produce a better America.
I'm a perfectly good carrot that everyone is trying to turn into a rose.
As a carrot, I have good color and a nice leafy top. When I'm carved into a rose, I turn brown and wither.
we are a small, interconnected world;
that we are all safe or none of us are; that we are all well cared for or all at risk.
Coming out of the trance of denial is painful.
But crises offer us opportunities to rethink our lives. The best thing about despair is that it wakes us up. We can see the world more clearly and open to new possibilities...And we can find new joy in the ordinary.
Therapy isn't Radio.We don't need to constantly fill the air with sounds. Sometimes, when its quite, surprising things happen.
One important reason to stay calm is that calm parents hear more.
Low-key, accepting parents are the ones whose children keep talking.
Maturity involves being honest and true to oneself, making decisions based on a conscious internal process, assuming responsibility for one's decisions, having healthy relationships with others and developing one's own true gifts. It involves thinking about one's environment and deciding what one will and won't accept.
Telling stories never fails to produce good in the universe.
Girls developed eating disorders when our culture developed a standard of beauty that they couldn't obtain by being healthy. When unnatural thinness became attractive, girls did unnatural things to be thin.
The fullness of life comes from an identity built on giving and on joy.
Most parents of adolescent girls have the goal of keeping their daughters safe while they grow up and explore the world. The parents' job is to protect, the daughter's job is to explore.
Something dramatic happens to girls in early adolescence.
Just as planes and ships disappear mysteriously into the Bermuda Triangle, so do the selves of girls go down in droves.
I think history is inextricably linked to identity.
If you don't know your history, if you don't know your family, who are you?
True freedom has more to do with following the North Star than going whichever way the wind blows. Sometimes it seems like freedom is blowing with the winds of the day, but that kind of freedom is really an illusion. It turns your boat in circles. Freedom is sailing toward your dreams.
All geniuses born women are lost to the public good.
Adolescence is a border between childhood and adulthood.
Like all borders, it's teeming with energy and fraught with danger.
The protected place in space and time that we once called childhood has grown shorter.
How many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb? One, as long as the lightbulb wants to change.
Courage has become Raiders of the Lost Ark, or riding in spaceships, killing people, taking enormous physical risks. To me, the kind of courage that's really interesting is someone whose spouse has Alzheimer's and yet manages to wake up every morning and be cheerful with that person and respectful of that person and find things to enjoy even though their day is very, very difficult. That kind of courage is really undervalued in our culture.
It's important for parents to watch for trouble and convey to their daughters that, if it comes, they are strong enough to deal with it. Parents who send their [adolescent] daughters the message that they'll be overwhelmed by problems aren't likely to hear what's really happening.
Adolescents are travelers, far from home with no native land, neither children nor adults. They are jet-setters who fly from one country to another with amazing speed. Sometimes they are four years old, an hour later they are twenty-five. They don't really fit anywhere. There's a yearning for place, a search for solid ground.
Traditionally parents have wondered what their teens were doing, but now teens are much more likely to be doing things that can get them killed.
In all the years I've been a therapist, I've yet to meet one girl who likes her body.
Intelligent resistance keeps the true self alive
The two most radical things you can do in America are to slow down, and to talk to each other. If you do these things, you will improve your country.
Girls have long been evaluated on the basis of appearance and caught in myriad double binds: achieve, but not too much, be polite,but be yourself, be feminine and adult; be aware of our cultural heritage, but don't comment on the sexism. . . . Girls are trained to be less than who they really are. They are trained to be what the culture wants of its young women, not what they themselves want to become.
Teenage girls are extremists who see the world in black-and- white terms, missing shades of gray. Life is either marvelous or notworth living. School is either pure torment or is going fantastically. Other people are either great or horrible, and they themselves are wonderful or pathetic failures. One day a girl will refer to herself as "the goddess of social life" and the next day she'll regret that she's the "ultimate in nerdosity.
Parents wrongly assume that their daughters live in a world similar to the one they experienced as adolescents. They are dead wrong. Their daughters live in a media-drenched world floded with junk values. As girls turn from their parents, they turn to this world for guidance about how to be an adult.
Real friends require honesty, openness, and even vulnerability.
They also require attention and simple acts of kindness.
I want to write. I have always wanted to write. I do not care it I am not good at it. I just want to try.
All feelings are acceptable, but all behavior isn't.
When one of us tells the truth, he makes it easier for all of us to open our hearts to our pain and that of others.
Language imparts identity, meaning, and perspective to our human condition.
Writers are either polluters or part of the cleanup.
We tend to value military heroes and Schwarzenegger types who are physically courageous. The heroics of doing the right thing every day even when it is dull and inconvenient are undervalued.
Prayer is vastly superior to worry. With worry, we are helpless; with prayer, we are interceding. When I hear sad news, I try to say a prayer for the victims. When I am troubled, I will say a prayer that asks for relief for myself and for all those who suffer as I do. When I am concerned about my relatives or friends I say a short prayer to myself - "May they be happy and free of suffering."
Girls who stay true to themselves manage to find some way to respect the parts of themselves that are spiritual. They work for the betterment of the world. Girls who act from their false selves are often cynical about making the world a better place. They have given up hope. Only when they reconnect with the parts of themselves that are alive and true will they again have the energy to take on the culture and fight to save the planet.