Solitude is out of fashion. Our companies, our schools and our culture are in thrall to an idea I call the New Groupthink, which holds that creativity and achievement come from an oddly gregarious place.— Susan Cain
The most blissful Susan Cain quotes that are simple and will have a huge impact on you
In our society, the ideal self is bold, gregarious, and comfortable in the spotlight. We like to think that we value individuality, but mostly we admire the type of individual who’s comfortable "putting himself out there."
Opposites attract, and I think temperament is so fundamental that you end up craving someone of the opposite temperament to complete you.
What looks like multitasking is really switching back and forth between multiple tasks, which reduces productivity and increases mistakes by up to 50 percent.
Solitude matters, and for some people, it's the air they breathe.
In our culture, snails are not considered valiant animals - we are constantly exhorting people to "come out of their shells" - but there's a lot to be said for taking your home with you wherever you go.
There's zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.
The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting.
For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, and insight -- to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems. make art, think deeply.
Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Gandhi — all these peopled described themselves as quiet and soft-spoken and even shy. And they all took the spotlight, even though every bone in their bodies was telling them not to.
we have two ears and one mouth and we should use them proportionally
You're told that you're in your head too much, a phrase that's often deployed against the quiet and cerebral. Or maybe there's another word for such people: thinkers.
Another study, of 38,000 knowledge workers across different sectors, found that the simple act of being interrupted is one of the biggest barriers to productivity. Even multitasking, that prized feat of modern-day office warriors, turns out to be a myth.
Introverts are capable of acting like extroverts for the sake of work they consider important, people they love, or anything they value highly.
The next time you see a person with a composed face and a soft voice, remember that inside her mind she might be solving an equation, composing a sonnet, designing a hat. She might, that is, be deploying the power of quiet.
The glory of the disposition that stops to consider stimuli rather than rushing to engage with them is its long association with intellectual and artistic achievement. Neither E=mc2 nor Paradise Lost was dashed off by a party animal.
I'm continually amazed by how many people who appear to be extroverts are actually introverts.
Shyness is the fear of social disapproval or humiliation, while introversion is a preference for environments that are not overstimulating. Shyness is inherently painful; introversion is not.
I prefer listening to talking, reading to socializing... I like to think before I speak (softly).
[Introverts,] the world needs you and it needs the things you carry.
So I wish you the best of all possible journeys and the courage to speak softly.
Our lives are shaped as profoundly by personality as by gender or race.
And the single most important aspect of personality ... is where we fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum.
Love is essential, gregariousness is optional.
Evangelicalism has taken the Extrovert Ideal to its logical extreme.
..If you don't love Jesus out loud, then it must not be real love. It's not enough to forge your own spiritual connection to the divine; it must be displayed publicly.
Shyness is inherently uncomfortable; introversion is not. The traits do overlap, though psychologists debate to what degree.
Don't think of introversion as something that needs to be cured.
Solitude is one of our great superpowers.
.. Solitude is the key to being able to make effective decisions and then having the courage of convictions to stand behind those decisions.
Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we've turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform.
All personality traits have their good side and their bad side.
But for a long time, we've seen introversion only through its negative side and extroversion mostly through its positive side.
Being relatively unmoved by rewards gives you the incalculable power to go your own way.
What if you love knowledge for its own sake, not necessarily as a blueprint to action? What if you wish there were more, not fewer reflective types in the world?
Figure out what you are meant to contribute to the world and make sure you contribute it. If this requires public speaking or networking or other activities that make you uncomfortable, do them anyway. But accept that they're difficult, get the training you need to make them easier, and reward yourself when you're done.
Our culture is biased against quiet and reserved people, but introverts are responsible for some of humanity's greatest achievements.
Open-plan offices have been found to reduce productivity and impair memory.
They’re associated with high staff turnover. They make people sick, hostile, unmotivated, and insecure.
...I also believe that introversion is my greatest strength. I have such a strong inner life that I’m never bored and only occasionally lonely. No matter what mayhem is happening around me, I know I can always turn inward.
Many people believe that introversion is about being antisocial, and that's really a misperception. Because actually it's just that introverts are differently social. So they would prefer to have a glass of wine with a close friend as opposed to going to a loud party full of strangers.
Introverts are offered keys to private gardens full of riches.
To possess such a key is to tumble like Alice down her rabbit hole. She didn't choose to go to Wonderland - but she made of it an adventure that was fresh and fantastic and very much her own.
Introverts living under the Extroversion Ideal are like women in a man's world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are.
In a way, education by its nature favours the extrovert because you are taking kids and putting them into a big classroom, which is automatically going to be a high-stimulation environment. Probably the best way of teaching in general is one on one, but that's not something everyone can afford.
Introverts need to trust their gut and share their ideas as powerfully as they can.
Any time people come together in a meeting, we're not necessarily getting the best ideas; we're just getting the ideas of the best talkers.
Introversion - along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness - is now a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology.
I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they're good talkers, but they don't have good ideas.
Cross the street to avoid making aimless chitchat with random acquaintances.
Introverts often work more slowly and deliberately.
They like to focus on one task at a time and can have mighty powers of concentration . They're relatively immune to the lures of wealth and fame.
We often marvel at how introverted, geeky, kid 'blossom' into secure and happy adults. We liken it to a metamorphosis. However, maybe it's not the children who change but their environments. As adults they get to select the careers, spouses, and social circles that suit them. They don't have to live in whatever culture they'er plunked into.
Introverts .. may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas.
A widely held, but rarely articulated, belief in our society is that the ideal self is bold, alpha, gregarious. Introversion is viewed somewhere between disappointment and pathology.
Our culture rightly admires risk-takers, but we need our 'heed-takers' more than ever.
We have a two-tier class system when it comes to personality style.
To devalue introversion is a waste of talent, energy and happiness.
We're told that to be great is to be bold, to be happy is to be sociable.
We see ourselves as a nation of extroverts - which means that we've lost sight of who we really are. Depending on which study you consult, one third to one half of Americans are introverts - in other words, one out of every two or three people you know.
Everyone shines, given the right lighting.
Most people who have grown up introverted in this very extroverted culture of ours have had painful experiences of feeling like they are out of step with what's expected of them.