110+ Tara Brach Quotes On Compassion, Fear And Compassionate

Top 10 Tara Brach Quotes (BEST)

  1. Mindfulness is a pause - the space between stimulus and response: that's where choice lies.
  2. Stopping the endless pursuit of getting somewhere else is the perhaps most beautiful offering we can make to our spirit.
  3. On this sacred path of Radical Acceptance, rather than striving for perfection, we discover how to love ourselves into wholeness.
  4. There are some things we can't choose, but in being present we can choose how we want to relate to them
  5. Sometimes the easiest way to appreciate ourselves is by looking through the eyes of someone who loves us.
  6. Radical Acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our lives as it is.
  7. The most powerful healing arises from the simple intention to love the life within you, unconditionally, with as much tenderness and presence as possible.
  8. When someone says to us, as Thich Nhat Hanh suggests, "Darling, I care about your suffering," a deep healing begins.
  9. The renowned seventh-century Zen master Seng-tsan taught that true freedom is being "without anxiety about imperfection.
  10. Nothing is wrong - whatever is happening is just "real life."

Tara Brach Short Quotes

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  • Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha.
  • The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.
  • Imperfection is not our personal problem - it is a natural part of existing.
  • Observing desire without acting on it enlarges our freedom to choose how we live.
  • Along with judging myself harshly, I'd also always seen the truth of goodness in me.
  • What would it be like if I could accept life--accept this moment--exactly as it is?
  • Meditation is evolution's strategy to bring out our full potential.
  • Where desire ends up causing suffering is when it fixates.
  • I want to accept myself completely, just as I am.
  • We are continually experiencing the conditioning to hold on, tighten, or resist.

Tara Brach Quotes On Compassion

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Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance. — Tara Brach

Relaxation is the doorway to both wisdom and compassion. — Tara Brach

Awakening self-compassion is often the greatest challenge people face on the spiritual path. — Tara Brach

I knew I could hold myself with that absolute love and compassion. — Tara Brach

It's the beginning of opening to love. Even if there's not much feeling of compassion toward oneself, just say, "It's okay, sweetheart," or "I'm sorry and I love you." — Tara Brach

Unless we're completely awake, have a degree of that. We tense against love and hold on in a way that doesn't let it flow. When that's really strong, the key piece to freeing our hearts is self-compassion. — Tara Brach

When we open to love, we become love. — Tara Brach

I mentioned earlier the two wings of awareness. The first step is recognizing the fear of getting close to others - this honest witnessing of where it is in the body, where it is in your beliefs.The other wing regards what's seen with kindness and compassion. — Tara Brach

In the process of deeply accepting our own inner experience, instead of being identified with a story of a limited self, we realize the compassion and wakefulness that is our essence. — Tara Brach

In the collective psyche it is being understood... that we can cultivate wisdom and compassion. — Tara Brach

Tara Brach Quotes On Love

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You can think of spiritual practice as a kind of spiritual re-parenting ... You're offering yourself the two qualities that make up good parenting: understanding - seeing yourself for who you truly are - and relating to what you see with unconditional love. — Tara Brach

By regarding ourselves with kindness, we begin to dissolve the identity of an isolated, deficient self. This creates the grounds for including others in an unconditionally loving heart. — Tara Brach

Paying attention is the most basic and profound expression of love. — Tara Brach

If our hearts are ready for anything, we can open to our inevitable losses, and to the depths of our sorrow. We can grieve our lost loves, our lost youth, our lost health, our lost capacities. This is part of our humanness, part of the expression of our love for life. — Tara Brach

I think it's possible to have experiences of love without attachment, but I think part of our conditioning is to grasp at times, especially when there are unmet needs. It's part of our nervous system to hold on to where we think those needs will be met. — Tara Brach

Even a few moments of offering lovingkindness can reconnect you with the purity of your loving heart. — Tara Brach

My prayer became 'May I find peace... May I love this life no matter what.' I was seeking an inner refuge, an experience of presence and wholeness that could carry me through whatever losses might come. — Tara Brach

If [kids] get into loving relationships, they're afraid they'll be found wanting, won't have the looks or body shape our culture deems worthy. Many of us feel we're falling short and if we start feeling close to another person, that we'll be found out and rejected. — Tara Brach

We want to be in open, loving communion with each other and our greatest fear is intimacy. That it won't work and we'll be rejected. — Tara Brach

I decided to write 'True Refuge' during a major dive in my own health. Diagnosed with a genetic disease that affected my mobility, I faced tremendous fear and grief about losing the fitness and physical freedom I loved. — Tara Brach

Tara Brach Quotes On Fear

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Fear of being a flawed person lay at the root of my trance, and I had sacrificed many moments over the years in trying to prove my worth. Like the tiger Mohini, I inhabited a self-made prison that stopped me from living fully. — Tara Brach

By running from what we fear, we feed the inner darkness — Tara Brach

When we see the secret beauty of anyone, including ourselves, we see past our judgment and fear into the core of who we truly are - not an entrapped self but the radiance of goodness. — Tara Brach

A lot of times in spiritual communities, detachment is considered to be an expression of being spiritually evolved when often, we have want and fear around being in relationship with each other. — Tara Brach

As long as we are alive, we feel fear. It is an intrinsic part of our makeup, as natural as a bitter cold winter day or the winds that rip branches off trees. If we resist it or push it aside, we miss a powerful opportunity for awakening. — Tara Brach

When we relax about imperfection, we no longer lose our life moments in the pursuit of being different and in the fear of what is wrong. — Tara Brach

Underneath the stress is fear, and the biggest is our own personal fear of failure. — Tara Brach

Just remember that everyone is struggling; everyone is living with fear and uncertainty and it doesn't matter what their politics are. — Tara Brach

Tara Brach Famous Quotes And Sayings

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Perhaps the biggest tragedy of our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns...We may want to love other people without holding back, to feel authentic, to breathe in the beauty around us, to dance and sing. Yet each day we listen to inner voices that keep our life small. — Tara Brach

The spiritual path is not a solo endeavor. In fact, the very notion of a self who is trying to free her/ himself is a delusion. We are in it together and the company of spiritual friends helps us realize our interconnectedness. — Tara Brach

We are mindful of desire when we experience it with an embodied awareness, recognizing the sensations and thoughts of wanting as arising and passing phenomena. While this isn't easy, as we cultivate the clear seeing and compassion of Radical Acceptance, we discover we can open fully to this natural force, and remain free in its midst. — Tara Brach

If our hearts are ready for anything, we are touched by the beauty and poetry and mystery that fill our world. — Tara Brach

The muscles used to make a smile actually send a biochemical message to our nervous system that it is safe to relax the flight of freeze response. — Tara Brach

My first book, 'Radical Acceptance', grew out of the suffering of feeling personally deficient and unworthy. Because most of us are so quick to turn against ourselves, the teachings and practices of radical acceptance continue as a strong current in 'True Refuge': nurturing a forgiving, understanding heart is a basic step on the path. — Tara Brach

Self-judgment continues to arise - it's a strong habit - but the fact that I made a conscious commitment to recognize it has helped me stop feeding the story of being unworthy. — Tara Brach

We, like the Mother of the World, become the compassionate presence that can hold, with tenderness, the rising and passing waves of suffering. — Tara Brach

Even going through the motions is a way of establishing a new relationship with our inner life that is caring and tender, versus one that is judging, distancing or ignoring. This is the beginning of being capable of intimacy with others. — Tara Brach

The way to develop the habit of savoring is to pause when something is beautiful and good and catches our attention - the sound of rain, the look of the night sky - the glow in a child's eyes, or when we witness some kindness. Pause... then totally immerse in the experience of savoring it. — Tara Brach

Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain. — Tara Brach

Presence is not some exotic state that we need to search for or manufacture. In the simplest terms, it is the felt sense of wakefulness, openness, and tenderness that arises when we are fully here and now with our experience. — Tara Brach

With mindfulness training we are able to recognize when we get lost in our mental dramas, and bring a kind and nonreactive presence to the feelings that accompany them. — Tara Brach

Perhaps the biggest tragedy of our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns. — Tara Brach

The trance of unworthiness keeps the sweetness of belonging out of reach. The path to "the sweetness of belonging," is acceptance - acceptance of ourselves and acceptance of others without judgment. — Tara Brach

The Buddha never intended to make desire itself the problem. When he said craving causes suffering, he was referring not to our natural inclination as living beings to have wants and needs, but to our habit of clinging to experience that must, by nature, pass away. — Tara Brach

To me, bringing mindfulness-bas ed practices to students, teachers and parents is some of the most important work we can be doing. If we can help the next generation become more self-aware, empathetic and emotionally resilient, they will bring their wisdom to healing the earth and creating a more peaceful world. — Tara Brach

When desire for a certain person's attention becomes an "I have to have" kind of grasping, then identity gets organized around needing that and it becomes very solid and sticky. That causes suffering because we're not inhabiting the fullness of who we are, we're fixated and contracted on life being a certain way. — Tara Brach

You have a unique body and mind, with a particular history and conditioning. No one can offer you a formula for navigating all situations and all states of mind. Only by listening inwardly in a fresh and open way will you discern at any given time what most serves your healing and freedom. — Tara Brach

I think of depression as the mechanism that pushes down the pain of that loss. It tries to distance us from the loss but it lowers our whole energy level. I think that's a pervasive way we end up responding to loss or the anticipation of loss. Natural but not necessary. — Tara Brach

What would it be like if, right in the midst of this busyness, we were to consciously take our hands off the controls? What if we were to intentionally stop our mental computations and our rushing around and, for a minute or two, simply pause and notice our inner experience? — Tara Brach

Most of us grew up with a very damaging story that something is wrong with us. Gradually - or as in my case, suddenly - we become resolved not to believe this anymore. It takes a dedicated practice to follow up on that resolution, because the conditioning is very strong to keep generating self-demeaning stories. — Tara Brach

Meditation helps us to get out of our thoughts about the future and really be in the present moment. — Tara Brach

Most of us grow up with a sense of "I'm not intelligent enough." It's such a sad thing that in the West we worship a certain kind of left-brain intelligence. — Tara Brach

Allowing another to be as they are is more what I think of as "space." The space to express yourself and know that you're going to be accepted. That's more where I go than with the actual physical logistics of how much time you have together and how much time you have apart. — Tara Brach

Offer some gesture of kindness to yourself. Sometimes it's just a message, to say: "It's okay. You're going to be okay. We've been through this before." The intention is reassurance, that you are not alone and you can do this. It is the most powerful way to come out of what I call the "trance of unworthiness." — Tara Brach

Telling each other the truth and being who we are, and having space for the other person's vulnerability in being who they are, allows us to move in a kind of dance together that's very fluid and graceful. — Tara Brach

In a basic way, acceptance is seeing clearly what's happening and holding it with kindness. This is a radical antidote to the suffering of judging mind. — Tara Brach

People have to find their rhythm. Some people have need for more contact and time together and some people need more space. — Tara Brach

I think the reason Buddhism and Western psychology are so compatible is that Western psychology helps to identify the stories and the patterns in our personal lives, but what Buddhist awareness training does is it actually allows the person to develop skills to stay in what's going on. — Tara Brach

Meditation helps us gain the capacity to relax, to connect with what is going on right here and right now, to connect with other people, to re-access our resourcefulness, our clarity and our ability to focus and keep an open heart. — Tara Brach

I speak a lot about what I call "the trance of unworthiness" which is really epidemic in our culture, this sense of "I'm not enough," or "something's wrong with me." Most of us have some level of it because our culture has all these standards (handed down through our families) of what it means to be okay. — Tara Brach

Through the sacred art of pausing, we develop the capacity to stop hiding, to stop running away from our experience. We begin to trust in our natural intelligence, in our naturally wise heart, in our capacity to open to whatever arises. — Tara Brach

The process of radical acceptance is to accept that a story has appeared in the mind, and then deepen the attention to see clearly what's happening in the body, to regard those feelings and sensations with kindness and acceptance, and to notice how they come and go. — Tara Brach

If our hearts are ready for anything, we will spontaneously reach out when others are hurting. Living in an ethical way can attune us to the pain and needs of others, but when our hearts are open and awake, we care instinctively. — Tara Brach

I'd known that I had the capacity to love, that I enjoyed seeing other people be happy, that I had a real awe and wonder about the beauty of this world. — Tara Brach

When caught in conflict and blame - make a U-turn and shift your attention from blaming thoughts to what's going on emotionally in your body. — Tara Brach

I registered the dukkha of self-aversion with such clarity that I knew there was no freedom unless I could love this life without holding back. This didn't mean I was going to ignore my flaws and stop seeking to improve what I could. But in the deepest way, I was not going to fixate on the conclusion that something was wrong with me. — Tara Brach

Happiness lies not in finding what is missing, but in finding what is present. — Tara Brach

Learning to pause is the first step in the practice of Radical Acceptance. A pause is a suspension of activity, a time of temporary disengagement when we are no longer moving toward any goal ... The pause can occur in the midst of almost any activity and can last for an instant, for hours or for seasons of our life ... You might try it now: Stop reading and sit there, doing 'no thing,' and simply notice what you are experiencing. — Tara Brach

We wait for things to be different in order to feel okay with life. As long as we keep attaching our happiness to the external events of our lives, which are ever changing, we’ll always be left waiting for it. — Tara Brach

When you are in touch with your body and heart, it allows you to then be in the world and act with intention and clarity and kindness. — Tara Brach

There are stories we take on from our culture, and there are stories based on our own personal history. Some of those stories lock us in limiting beliefs and lead to suffering, and there are others that can move us toward freedom. — Tara Brach

Discovering a richer quality of being-ness means to keep surrendering and letting go of resistance. — Tara Brach

Stories can be a jumping-off point to access the emotions and the sensations in the body. — Tara Brach

Stories about ourselves and about the world continually arise in our minds and shape our beliefs about reality. — Tara Brach

The main thing going on around intimacy is that we've developed a lot of strategies so we'll be a desirable package. — Tara Brach

Our attitude in the face of life's challenges determines our suffering or our freedom. — Tara Brach

True refuge is that which allows us to be at home, at peace, to discover true happiness. The only thing that can give us true refuge is the awareness and love that is intrinsic to who we are. Ultimately, its our own true nature. — Tara Brach

I think of desire as the essence that brings forth the whole universe. — Tara Brach

If there's a demand of being together in a certain way, those expectations and judgements take away from that space and create an edginess and a cramped-ness to the relationship. — Tara Brach

I sometimes call this our "spacesuit self" because we come into an environment that is difficult and challenging, where we're told to be different. We're told to jump over hoops to be loved and appreciated, so we have to develop spacesuit strategies to get approval and create ways to avoid being judged. — Tara Brach

As we free ourselves from the suffering of 'something is wrong with me, 'we trust and express the fullness of who we are.' — Tara Brach

Each time you meet an old emotional pattern with presence, your awakening to truth can deepen. There’s less identification with the self in the story and more ability to rest in the awareness that is witnessing what’s happening. You become more able to abide in compassion, to remember and trust your true home. Rather than cycling repetitively through old conditioning, you are actually spiraling toward freedom. — Tara Brach

But this revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime. — Tara Brach

My understanding is that to love, we need to be able to totally surrender to the living/dying nature of this world. — Tara Brach

The mistake we make is that when we're feeling another person is not treating us in the way that makes us feel secure and loved, we fixate our attention on that person and what's wrong with them. We also fixate on what's wrong with us. Instead, we can bring forward two wings of awareness: the wing of mindfulness (noticing what's going on inside us) and the wing of kindness (compassion to what's going on inside us). — Tara Brach

That non-attachment gives us the freedom to be exactly who we are. — Tara Brach

People don't behave in angry ways unless they are feeling stressed and conflicted too. — Tara Brach

Making a U-turn from our thoughts to our feelings re-connects us to our own inner experience and creates the grounds for connecting with others in a more authentic way. It's a movement from head to heart. — Tara Brach

I don't believe I'm bad, and I do believe I'm good. — Tara Brach

Because we have such a deeply grooved conditioning to reject and condemn ourselves, particularly in this culture, I find that emphasis on the word "acceptance" is central in healing. It brings our attention to the possibility of saying yes to what we are experiencing in the moment, and counteracts the conditioning to push away what feels unpleasant or intense or unfamiliar. — Tara Brach

I would say both Western psychology and Eastern paths would recognize that we get caught up in feeling like a separate self and an unworthy self. — Tara Brach

Somewhere in my early twenties I realized I was pretty constantly monitoring myself, judging how I was always falling short, whether it was about not being a good enough daughter or friend, or my appearance, or whatever. I ended up becoming involved with a spiritual path in the yogic tradition, living in an ashram, doing a very rigorous spiritual practice. — Tara Brach

Our kids go to school and they come out feeling not intelligent, not desirable, not attractive or appealing to others. — Tara Brach

The two wings of mindfulness and kindness will begin to open the heart to more connection with our world. — Tara Brach

Emotions are the interaction of thoughts and of sensations in the body. — Tara Brach

Extend an act of kindness each day. No one has to know. It can be a smile, reassuring words, a small favor - without expecting something in return. — Tara Brach

It is natural that our minds replay old stories, because that is our own mechanism for trying to work out unresolved problems. Yet rerunning those stories will be a fruitless looping until we learn how to move from the story into our body. This is why therapy alone often doesn't bring full healing and awakening. — Tara Brach

If I can forgive the attachment in myself and open to the vulnerability that's underneath it, then rather than fixating on another person to satisfy my need, I'm actually going right to where the needs come from and able to bring a real healing. — Tara Brach

Take moments to savor what is beautiful and good. — Tara Brach

Life Lessons by Tara Brach

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  1. Tara Brach teaches us to be mindful of our inner experience and to practice self-compassion and acceptance.
  2. She encourages us to be aware of our thoughts and feelings and to be kind to ourselves in difficult moments.
  3. By learning to be present and aware of our emotions, we can develop a greater understanding of ourselves and our relationships with others.

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