110+ Warren Farrell Quotes On Education, Religion And Jordan Peterson

Warren Farrell was an American writer and public speaker, best known for his books on the psychology of men and women in relationships. He wrote extensively on the role of men in modern society, and his books have been translated into multiple languages. He was a former board member of the National Organization for Women and the author of several books, including The Myth of Male Power and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say. Following is our collection on famous quotes by Warren Farrell on education, leadership, life.

Top 10 Warren Farrell Quotes

1. When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
2. One danger of a man succeeding is that it teaches his wife and daughter not to worry about success.
3. In fact, the socialization gives us the tools to fill our evolutionary roles. They are our building blocks.
4. Hazing is both testing and training to subordinate self to the team.
5. The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness.
6. The government passed more laws to protect women from dirty jokes than to protect men from death by faulty rafters at a construction site.
7. If women had to promise to provide for a man for a lifetime before he removed his veil and showed her his smile, would we think of this as a system of female privilege?
8. Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.
9. I define power as control over ones life. A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.
10. When only men could register to vote, we required only men to register for the draft. Today both sexes can vote, but only men must register for the draft.

Warren Farrell Short Quotes

• Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
• Our children are better served by speaking not of visitation versus custody, but of parent time.
• Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.
• Blacks are six times more likely than whites to be victims of homicides.
• The key to wealth is not what we earn. It is in what is spent on us.
• Every movement has radicals. But the important thing is that the radicals are not the leaders.
• When a man is able to connect with his feelings, he is able to care more.
• The average full-time working male works more than a full-time working female.
• In our society, the sound of men complaining is like nails on a chalkboard.
• A lot of young men are frustrated and looking for someone to blame.

Warren Farrell Quotes About Life

When women are at the height of their beauty power and exercise it, we call it marriage. When men are at the height of their success power and exercise it, we call it a mid-life crisis. — Warren Farrell

We would not think of allowing a man to determine a woman's life merely because a fetus he helped create was in her womb; then why would we allow a woman to determine a man's life merely because a fetus he helped create is in her womb? — Warren Farrell

There are 25 differences in the way women and men behave in the workplace. These 25 differences lead to men receiving higher pay and women having better lives or at least more balanced lives. — Warren Farrell

Throughout my life I have always been amazed that people couldn't listen to other people, that they couldn't hear their best intent, that there seemed to be an enormous need to demonize. — Warren Farrell

If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn't exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life. — Warren Farrell

The more the father is involved, the more easily the child makes open, receptive, and trusting contact with new people in its life. — Warren Farrell

[With respect to child custody] a woman has no right to a unilateral choice that affects the rest of a man's life any more than a man would have the right to a unilateral choice that affects the rest of a woman's life. — Warren Farrell

After years of research, I discovered 25 differences in the work-life choices of men and women. All 25 lead to men earning more money, but to women having better lives. — Warren Farrell

Sometimes I have a feeling, when I look back on my life, that all I've been through has prepared me perfectly for just what I'm doing now. — Warren Farrell

To me, God is the accumulated wisdom I've gathered throughout my life. When I pay attention, my body gives me a printout of this wisdom. — Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell Quotes About Love

Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search--for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis. — Warren Farrell

For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I--survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II--a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition. — Warren Farrell

Industrialization created the Father's Catch-22: a dad loving his children by being away from the love of his children. — Warren Farrell

Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them. — Warren Farrell

When I feel very loved, when I nurture and support people, my experience is deepened. I feel connected to a larger purpose and meaning. — Warren Farrell

Women-in-jeopardy movies are, in essence, the updated versions of men dying to save the princess from the dragon to earn her love. They are modern-day training films for teaching women to select the best protectors while weeding out the rest. — Warren Farrell

The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts. — Warren Farrell

Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive. — Warren Farrell

So while in men's magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women's magazines love and sex are power tools to get success and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial. — Warren Farrell

Just as women needed the help of the law to enter the workplace in the 20th century, men will need the help of the law to love their children in the 21st century. — Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell Quotes About Sexes

He and she become selective at different points; she can be selective when he wants his primary fantasy - sex; he can be selective when she wants her primary fantasy - commitment. — Warren Farrell

Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place. — Warren Farrell

It is in the interests of both sexes to hear the other sex's experience of powerlessness. — Warren Farrell

We can decrease abuse and murder when we get that for both sexes, abuse does not derive from power, but powerlessness. — Warren Farrell

Until recently, the question was 'Why can't a woman be more like a man?' It should have been changed to 'Why can't both sexes be more like the best parts of each other?' Instead, the pendulum swung to the 1960s feminist lapel button Adam Was a First Draft. True enough. So are we all. — Warren Farrell

Employers are not prohibited from practicing sex discrimination in hiring and promoting employees. — Warren Farrell

The 'enduring theme' [in fiction] of male competition and female competition for the hero/survivor has taken us from the fittest surviving to the brink of no one surviving. Sex roles have gone from functional to dysfunctional almost overnight. This is why the enduring theme must be questioned now. — Warren Farrell

Both sexes allow men dentists inside our mouths, but, well, have you ever let a man who is a dental hygienist inside your mouth? The man must earn his way to our private places in a way not required of a woman--he must become the doctor or the dentist, or forget it. — Warren Farrell

In the past we believed both sexes were born with original sin. Today, we have come to unconsciously believe in the original sin of boys, but the original innocence of girls. — Warren Farrell

Male bashing is everywhere. It would be a mistake to view the current situation as another skirmish in the war between the sexes. Women have been doing the shooting, and men have been burying their heads in the sand, hoping the bullets will miss. — Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell Quotes About Male

On an unconscious level, the demonization of sexuality usually implies the demonization of males and the victimization of females. — Warren Farrell

One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive. — Warren Farrell

Unless a woman asks men out (the first time) as often as men ask her out, then the assertion 'He asked me out, therefore he pays' is just a double jeopardy of the male role: he must not only do the asking, he must pay extra for risking extra rejection. — Warren Farrell

Humans tend to start the process of change by acknowledging themselves. Thus blacks asserted black pride and 'black is beautiful;' women declared 'I am woman, I am strong'; men are saying 'I am man, I am okay.' After a quarter of a century of male bashing, that's not a bad start. — Warren Farrell

The Myth of Male Power dealt much more with the political issues, the legal issues, sexual harassment, date rape, women who kill, and those issues were very much more interfaced with the agendas of feminism. — Warren Farrell

In 1969, nationwide, female professors who had never been married and never published earned 145% of their counterpart male colleagues. — Warren Farrell

Every day, almost as many men are killed at work as were killed during the average day in Vietnam. For men, there are, in essence, three male-only drafts: the draft of men to all the wars; the draft of Everyman to unpaid bodyguard; the draft of men to all the hazardous jobs or 'death professions. — Warren Farrell

Male-female fusion does not create women's rights. It creates a fusion of rights. — Warren Farrell

Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness. — Warren Farrell

Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash. — Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell Quotes About Role

I don't think there's anything that is a greater area of discrimination against women today than the fact that nowhere in the world is there a female role model in team sports that more than half of a general audience would recognize. — Warren Farrell

Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate. — Warren Farrell

Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him. — Warren Farrell

Sex role training becomes divorce training. — Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell Quotes About Feminists

Feminists have confused opportunity with outcome. — Warren Farrell

Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support. — Warren Farrell

But when feminists suggest that God might be a She without suggesting that the Devil might also be female, they must be opposed. — Warren Farrell

In America and in most of the industrialized world, men are coming to be thought of by feminists in very much the same way that Jews were thought of by early Nazis. The comparison is overwhelmingly scary. — Warren Farrell

Because of the feminist perspective, we have gotten a view of the world that is distorted. — Warren Farrell

The irony of primary parent laws is that on the one hand feminists were arguing for women's equal rights to jointly-created career assets that emanated from the male financial womb, but arguing against men's equal rights to jointly-created children that emanated from the woman's child-bearing womb. — Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell Famous Quotes And Sayings

Fear of emotional contact with men out of fear of being a sexual suspect makes boys, ironically, even more powerless before girls. Homophobia is like telling the United States it will be a sissy nation if it doesn't get all its oil from OPEC. — Warren Farrell

How can I call security a woman's primary fantasy if I am saying it is also her primary need? Because while her primary need is the security of a home and a family circle, her primary fantasy is that someone else will earn enough to pay for them. Hence the focus of 2 billion women on the latest royal wedding. — Warren Farrell

Circumcision in the United States is routinely performed without anesthesia, though anesthesia reduces the infant's stress and prevents infection and blood clots. — Warren Farrell

On a deeper level, if our sons are learning they are obscene, disgusting, and untrustworthy, is this the best preparation for fatherhood? And is it the best preparation for becoming a mother - to feel this way about her son? — Warren Farrell

Raising children was not designed for single parents. (Which is why divorce was such a taboo prior to birth control). — Warren Farrell

The Government as Substitute Husband did for women what labor unions still have not accomplished for men. And men pay dues for labor unions; the taxpayer pays the dues for feminism. Feminism and government soon become taxpayer-supported women's unions. — Warren Farrell

Why do we resist giving help to homeless men? In part because we don't understand how our pressure on men to support families often forces men to take transient jobs that are but a step away from homelessness (the death-of-a-salesman jobs, the migrant worker jobs...) and in part because we respond differently to men who fail [than women who fail]. — Warren Farrell

So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny. — Warren Farrell

When we commit violence against an infant girl, we call it child abuse; when we commit violence against an infant boy, we call it circumcision. — Warren Farrell

It evolved from my experience in the fifties, growing up during the McCarthy era, and hearing a lot of assumptions that America was wonderful and Communism was terrible. — Warren Farrell

Asking the legal system to resolve divorce is like asking a boxing coach to be our marriage counselor. — Warren Farrell

Men's competitive team sports focus on the balance between individual achievement and team achievement with the emphasis on team achievement. — Warren Farrell

Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. Use is a dirty word only when theres an imbalance in the relationship. — Warren Farrell

With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men's victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men's victimizer status camouflages men's victim status. — Warren Farrell

Perhaps the best reason to consider the hard sciences is that, well, one study suggests science, engineering, medicine, and dentistry graduates live longer than arts graduates (or law grads). So whatever money you make you can keep a bit longer. — Warren Farrell

We always look at the 'Fortune ,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards. — Warren Farrell

You could make a case that women addicted men to their sexuality and then withdrew their sexuality until we provided them with a source of income. — Warren Farrell

Black men, Indian men, and gay men have all have something in common: They do not provide an economic security blanket for women. — Warren Farrell

A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety. — Warren Farrell

By the 1970s, the American woman was being called 'liberated' or 'superwoman' while the American man was being called 'baby killer' if he fought in Vietnam, 'traitor' if he protested, or 'apathetic' if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on. — Warren Farrell

No movement calls [migrant workers] oppressed for providing money for women from whom they are receiving neither cooking nor cleaning; for providing their wives with homes while they sleep on the ground. — Warren Farrell

Women's vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men's confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women. — Warren Farrell

A woman with organizing skills can run a construction company without ever picking up a hammer and nail. — Warren Farrell

The money men make from their willingness to work the least desirable hours is not a sign of discrimination against women, but a sign of the willingness of mostly married men to lose sleep to support the family as their wife loses sleep to feed the child. A willingness to do the uncomfortable shifts is one reason married men earn more than twice what never-married men earn. Men's contribution, made at night, need not be lost in the dark. — Warren Farrell

If an employer had to pay a man one dollar for the same work a woman could do for 59 cents, why would anyone hire a man? — Warren Farrell

This is the first time in history that we've had this level of luxury, so we have a new opportunity to rethink the way we approach God. — Warren Farrell

Programs like WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. — Warren Farrell

I define power as control over one's life. Pay is not about power. Pay is about giving up power to get the power of pay. — Warren Farrell

When birth control pills were available in Europe but not in the United States, American women created an uproar about how the unwillingness to make the pill available showed a contempt for the lives of women. When the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) released birth control pills with high dosages of hormones that were later found to be unnecessarily high, they were attacked for not caring about women enough to do the necessary tests. — Warren Farrell

The Female Western is the battle between the good and evil methods of getting the men who perform best. — Warren Farrell

It would be hard to find a single example in history in which a group that cast more than 50 percent of the vote got away with calling itself the victim... Women are the only 'oppressed' group to share the same parents as the 'oppressor'; to be born into the middle class and upper class as frequently as the 'oppressor'; to own more of the culture's luxury items than the 'oppressor'. — Warren Farrell

Perhaps the most prevailing expectation of men is our Superman expectation: the fear we are merely Clark Kents who won't be accepted unless we are a Superman. — Warren Farrell

I'm an awfully loyal friend. Once I've started a relationship with someone, it's like they are syrup and I'm a pancake. Their syrup gets into my pancake, so to speak. — Warren Farrell

Students coming from father-present families score higher in math and science even when they come from weaker schools. — Warren Farrell

Women's scars and rituals involved beauty (piercing ears and noses, binding feet, and wearing corsets); men's involved protecting women. In cultures in which physical strength is still the best way to protect women, as among the Dodos in Uganda, each time a man kills a man, he is awarded a ritual scar; the more scars, the more he is considered eligible. — Warren Farrell

The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom - the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection (e.g., by joining the Army — Warren Farrell

I would suggest that just as women who make it in the world of business need male business mentors, perhaps men who make it in the world of emotions will need female emotional mentors. — Warren Farrell

Once boys' and men's challenges are clear, the question 'why now' quickly becomes 'why didn't we see this sooner?' The answer? Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable. — Warren Farrell

Men are socialized to trust women until evidence to the contrary surfaces; women are socialized to be suspicious of men until an individual man earns trust. — Warren Farrell

[This is] the basis of the Innocent Woman Defense the Innocent Woman Principle:;: Women are believed when they say they are innocent of violence and most easily doubted when they say they are guilty of violence. — Warren Farrell

All societies that have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work - and therefore as dads. — Warren Farrell

Falling in love is biologically natural; sustaining love is biologically un-natural. Sustaining love requires a learned discipline. The discipline of love. The discipline of understanding our partner. (I've never heard someone say I want a divorce - my partner understands me.) — Warren Farrell

We have entered 'The Era of the Three-Option Woman and the No-Option Man.' — Warren Farrell

When a government requires a man to support a child he was tricked into creating, that government subsidizes fraud. No. It is worse than that: It subsidizes the woman using a man's body for 18-21 years without his consent. — Warren Farrell

Only when a woman shares male risks can she really begin to understand men. — Warren Farrell

In a sense, sexual harassment lawsuits are just the latest version of the female selection process allowing her to select for men who care enough for her to put their career at risk; who have enough finesse to initiate without becoming a jerk and enough guts to initiate despite a potential lawsuit. In the past, though, the process of his overcoming her barriers was called 'courtship.' Now it is called either 'courtship' or 'sexual harassment'. — Warren Farrell

Male makeup is men's titles, status and paying for dates. Makeup is what both sexes use to bridge the gap between the power they have and the power they'd like to have. Both male and female makeup are compensations for feelings of powerlessness. — Warren Farrell

All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose. — Warren Farrell

When we look at the pay of men and women who do work equal hours, two discoveries are quite astonishing: --When women and men work less than 40 hours a week, the women earn more than the men; --When men and women work more than 40, the men earn more than the women. — Warren Farrell

When men in relationships have more money, we say they have the power. When women in relationships have more money, we say they are being used. — Warren Farrell

Men are fair, and they have learned not to personalize anger - they can disagree with you and argue to the bone, but afterward they still consider you a nice person with whom the underlying human relationship need not be altered. — Warren Farrell

I started to get very well recognized in the early seventies as the only man in the United States who had been elected three times to the board of NOW in New York City. — Warren Farrell

When divorces meant marriage no longer provided security for a lifetime, women adjusted by focusing on careers as empowerment. But when the sacrifice of a career met the sacrifices in a career, the fantasy of a career became the reality of trade-offs. Women developed career ambivalence. — Warren Farrell

When a parent denies a child its parent time, that parent is denying the child its child support - its psychological child support. — Warren Farrell

By giving women training to sue a company for a 'hostile environment' if someone tells a dirty joke, we are training women to run to the Government as Substitute Husband (or Father). This gets companies to fear women, but not to respect women. The best preparation we can give women to succeed in the workplace is the preparation to overcome barriers rather than to sue: successful people don't sue, they succeed. — Warren Farrell

People who work 44 hours per week make 50 percent more than people who work 34 hours a week. — Warren Farrell

I'm not saying that men make better fathers than women do mothers. — Warren Farrell

For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object. — Warren Farrell

In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans. — Warren Farrell

Is there discrimination against women? Yes. There's no denying that the old boys' network is alive and well. But there's also discrimination against men. — Warren Farrell

When men give lines, women learn to not trust men. When women wear makeup, men learn to not trust women. Male lines and female makeup are divorce training. — Warren Farrell

Boys with a failure to launch are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete. — Warren Farrell

Here's the pay paradox that Why Men Earn More explains: Men earn more money, therefore men have more power; and men earn more money, therefore men have less power (earning more money as an obligation, not an option). The opposite is true for women: Women earn less money, therefore women have less power; and women earn less money, therefore women have more power (the option to raise children, or to not take a hazardous job). — Warren Farrell

Just as the Depression left a generation of dads feeling they never had enough money, so father deprivation is leaving a generation of sons and daughters with different psychic wounds. — Warren Farrell

Divorces led to bodies of men (called legislatures) protecting women collectively as other men (called husbands) failed to protect women individually. — Warren Farrell

Men are the Rosie-the-Riveters of parenting. They're brought in only when needed, and considered disposable thereafter. — Warren Farrell

A person working 45 hours per week averages 44% more income than someone working 40 hours per week. That's 44% more income for 13% more time. — Warren Farrell

In the past quarter century, we exposed biases against other races and called it racism, and we exposed biases against women and called it sexism. Biases against men we call humor. — Warren Farrell

Life Lessons by Warren Farrell

1. Warren Farrell teaches us to be open-minded and to strive for balance in our lives, both in terms of our professional and personal relationships.
2. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the perspectives of both men and women in order to create a more equal and just society.
3. He encourages us to take responsibility for our actions and to be mindful of our impact on others.