Fear of emotional contact with men out of fear of being a sexual suspect makes boys, ironically, even more powerless before girls. Homophobia is like telling the United States it will be a sissy nation if it doesn't get all its oil from OPEC.— Warren Farrell
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When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence.
When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
In fact, the socialization gives us the tools to fill our evolutionary roles.
They are our building blocks.
One danger of a man succeeding is that it teaches his wife and daughter not to worry about success.
Hazing is both testing and training to subordinate self to the team.
The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness.
If women had to promise to provide for a man for a lifetime before he removed his veil and showed her his smile, would we think of this as a system of female privilege?
The government passed more laws to protect women from dirty jokes than to protect men from death by faulty rafters at a construction site.
Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search--for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis.
Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.
How can I call security a woman's primary fantasy if I am saying it is also her primary need? Because while her primary need is the security of a home and a family circle, her primary fantasy is that someone else will earn enough to pay for them. Hence the focus of 2 billion women on the latest royal wedding.
I define power as control over ones life.
A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.
When women are at the height of their beauty power and exercise it, we call it marriage. When men are at the height of their success power and exercise it, we call it a mid-life crisis.
When only men could register to vote, we required only men to register for the draft. Today both sexes can vote, but only men must register for the draft.
Circumcision in the United States is routinely performed without anesthesia, though anesthesia reduces the infant's stress and prevents infection and blood clots.
Raising children was not designed for single parents.
(Which is why divorce was such a taboo prior to birth control).
Our children are better served by speaking not of visitation versus custody, but of parent time.
On a deeper level, if our sons are learning they are obscene, disgusting, and untrustworthy, is this the best preparation for fatherhood? And is it the best preparation for becoming a mother - to feel this way about her son?
Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
He and she become selective at different points;
she can be selective when he wants his primary fantasy - sex; he can be selective when she wants her primary fantasy - commitment.
The Government as Substitute Husband did for women what labor unions still have not accomplished for men. And men pay dues for labor unions; the taxpayer pays the dues for feminism. Feminism and government soon become taxpayer-supported women's unions.
Why do we resist giving help to homeless men? In part because we don't understand how our pressure on men to support families often forces men to take transient jobs that are but a step away from homelessness (the death-of-a-salesman jobs, the migrant worker jobs...) and in part because we respond differently to men who fail [than women who fail].
Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.
So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.
We would not think of allowing a man to determine a woman's life merely because a fetus he helped create was in her womb; then why would we allow a woman to determine a man's life merely because a fetus he helped create is in her womb?
Men's competitive team sports focus on the balance between individual achievement and team achievement with the emphasis on team achievement.
Asking the legal system to resolve divorce is like asking a boxing coach to be our marriage counselor.
Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. Use is a dirty word only when theres an imbalance in the relationship.
Blacks are six times more likely than whites to be victims of homicides.
There are 25 differences in the way women and men behave in the workplace.
These 25 differences lead to men receiving higher pay and women having better lives or at least more balanced lives.
It evolved from my experience in the fifties, growing up during the McCarthy era, and hearing a lot of assumptions that America was wonderful and Communism was terrible.
When we commit violence against an infant girl, we call it child abuse;
when we commit violence against an infant boy, we call it circumcision.
With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men's victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men's victimizer status camouflages men's victim status.
If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn't exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.
Feminists have confused opportunity with outcome.
Throughout my life I have always been amazed that people couldn't listen to other people, that they couldn't hear their best intent, that there seemed to be an enormous need to demonize.
Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place.
One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive.
You could make a case that women addicted men to their sexuality and then withdrew their sexuality until we provided them with a source of income.
We always look at the 'Fortune ,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards.
Black men, Indian men, and gay men have all have something in common: They do not provide an economic security blanket for women.
On an unconscious level, the demonization of sexuality usually implies the demonization of males and the victimization of females.
It is in the interests of both sexes to hear the other sex's experience of powerlessness.
Perhaps the best reason to consider the hard sciences is that, well, one study suggests science, engineering, medicine, and dentistry graduates live longer than arts graduates (or law grads). So whatever money you make you can keep a bit longer.
By the 1970s, the American woman was being called 'liberated' or 'superwoman' while the American man was being called 'baby killer' if he fought in Vietnam, 'traitor' if he protested, or 'apathetic' if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on.
Unless a woman asks men out (the first time) as often as men ask her out, then the assertion 'He asked me out, therefore he pays' is just a double jeopardy of the male role: he must not only do the asking, he must pay extra for risking extra rejection.
Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children.
True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support.
A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety.
For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I--survival-focused.
After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II--a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition.
Humans tend to start the process of change by acknowledging themselves.
Thus blacks asserted black pride and 'black is beautiful;' women declared 'I am woman, I am strong'; men are saying 'I am man, I am okay.' After a quarter of a century of male bashing, that's not a bad start.