The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.— Anna Quindlen
The most fascinating Anna Quindlen quotes that are little-known but priceless
A finished person is a boring person.
The future is built on brains, not prom court, as most people can tell you after attending their high school reunion. But you'd never know it by talking to kids or listening to the messages they get from the culture and even from their schools.
After all those years as a woman hearing 'not thin enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not this enough, not that enough,' almost overnight I woke up one morning and thought, 'I'm enough.'
We read in bed because reading is halfway between life and dreaming.
There is a little boy inside the man who is my brother.
.. Oh, how I hated that little boy. And how I love him too.
Books are the plane, and the train, and the road. They are the destination, and the journey. They are home.
I would even go to Washington, which is saying something for me, just to glimpse Jane Q. Public, being sworn in as the first female president of the United States, while her husband holds the Bible and wears a silly pill box hat and matching coat.
In books I have travelled, bot only to other world, but into my own.
There is a lot of talk now about metal detectors and gun control.
Both are good things. But they are no more a solution than forks and spoons are a solution to world hunger.
Look back, to slavery, to suffrage, to integration and one thing is clear.
Fashions in bigotry come and go. The right thing lasts.
You are the only person alive who has sole custody of your life .
.. Your entire life ... Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart. Not just your bank account, but your soul.
America is a country that seems forever to be toddler or teenager, at those two stages of human development characterized by conflict between autonomy and security.
In books I have traveled, not only to other worlds, but into my own.
Life is not so much about beginnings and endings as it is about going on and on and on. It is about muddling through the middle.
I got a fortune cookie that said, "To remember is to understand.
" I have never forgotten it. A good judge remembers what it was like to be a lawyer. A good editor remembers being a writer. A good parent remembers what it was like to be a child.
Decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves.
Acts of bravery don't always take place on battlefields.
They can take place in your heart, when you have the courage to honor your character, your intellect, your inclinations, and yes, your soul by listening to its clean, clear voice of direction instead of following the muddied messages of a timid world.
All parents should be aware that when they mock or curse gay people, they may be mocking or cursing their own child.
A man who builds his own pedestal had better use strong cement.
It makes me angry to think that . . . female sanitation workers will spend their days doing a job most of their co-workers think they can't handle, and then they will go home and do another job most of their co-workers don't want.
The life you have led doesn't need to be the only life you have.
Even as we enumerate their shortcomings, the rigor of raising children ourselves makes clear to us our mothers' incredible strength. We fear both. If they are not strong, who will protect us? If they are not imperfect, how can we equal them?
There is something so settled and stodgy about turning a great romance into next of kin on an emergency room form, and something so soothing and special, too.
The victim mentality may be the last uncomplicated thing about life in America.
That's really what I want in a leader; I want somebody who's really, really smart.
being a parent is not transaction ... we do not get what we give. It is the ultimate pay-it-forward endeavor: we are good parents not so they will be loving enough to stay with us but so they will be strong enough to leave us.
I am a good friend to my husband. I have tried to make my marriage vows mean what they say. I show up. I listen. I try to laugh.
People always blame the girl; she should have said no. A monosyllable, but conventional wisdom has always been that boys can't manage it.
The pursuit of otherness, the sense that we are somehow different than our brothers and sisters, no matter where we find them, allows for all the other great evils: racism, sexism, homophobia, violence against gay people and against women.
I am an affirmative action hire.
If men got pregnant, there would be safe, reliable methods of birth control. They'd be cheap, too.
I sometimes think that courage is the thing that you need more than any other thing. It's fear that cripples us. It's fear that accounts for racism, it's fear that accounts for sexism, for xenophobia.
The greatest public health threat for many American women is the men they live with.
Ideas are like pizza dough, made to be tossed around.
We don't do ambivalence well in America.
We do courage of our convictions. We do might makes right. Ambivalence is French. Certainty is American.
If you want to write what the world is about, you have to write details.
..real life is in the dishes. Real life is pushing strollers up the street, folding T-shirts, the alarm clock going off early and you dropping into bed exhausted every night. That's real life.
Women who marry early are often overly enamored of the kind of man who looks great in wedding pictures and passes the maid of honor his telephone number.
Each instance of sexual harassment has to be judged on its merits.
Facts, timing, motives, credibility: all must be considered before we make up our own minds what to believe.
I was doing the family grocery shopping accompanied by two children, an event I hope to see included in the Olympics in the near future.
Familiarity breeds content.
In a democratic society, the only treason is silence.
Stereotypes fall in the face of humanity. We human beings are best understood one at a time.
what we call things matters. ... The words we use, and how we perceive those words, reflect how we value, or devalue, people, places, and things.
part of the problem with a war on poverty today is that many Americans have decided that being poor is a character defect, not an economic condition.
I'm just remembering myself at 22 or 23.
I was all engine and no steering. (Laughter) I had the wheels but I had no steering. I do think it's true that when you're younger, you're more likely to listen to all the naysayers, and people are always telling you how you ought to behave and what kind of job you should get and how you should look.
Whether talking about addiction, taxation [on cigarettes] or education [about smoking], there is always at the center of the conversation an essential conundrum: How come we're selling this deadly stuff anyway?
Here is the real domino theory - gay man to gay man, bisexual man to straight woman, addict mother to newborn baby, they all fall down and someday it will come to you.
Maybe I had three children in the first place so I wouldn't ever have to play board games. In my religion, martyrs die.
Sometimes we don't see out of our peripheral vision what's coming right around the corner.
All of us want to do well. But if we do not do good, too, then doing well will never be enough.
Somewhere between a third and a quarter of all people living in America today were born between 1946 and 1965 and if you think you're tired of hearing about us, you should try being one of us.