The good life is using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification.— Martin Seligman
The most stunning Martin Seligman quotes to get the best of your day
The aim of Positive Psychology is to catalyze a change in psychology from a preoccupation only with repairing the worst things in life to also building the best qualities in life.
Doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.
The good life consists in deriving happiness by using your signature strengths every day in the main realms of living. The meaningful life adds one more component: using these same strengths to forward knowledge, power, or goodness. A life that does this is pregnant with meaning, and if God comes at the end, such a life is sacred.
When well-being comes from engaging our strengths and virtues, our lives are imbued with authenticity.
Well-being cannot exist just in your own head.
Well-being is a combination of feeling good as well as actually having meaning, good relationships and accomplishment.
In a society in which individualism is becoming rampant, people more and more believe that they are the center of the world. Such a belief system makes individual failure almost inconsolable.
We deprive our children, our charges, of persistence.
What I am trying to say is that we need to fail, children need to fail, we need to feel sad, anxious and anguished. If we impulsively protect ourselves and our children, as the feel-good movement suggests, we deprive them of learning-persistence skills.
Just as the good life is something beyond the pleasant life, the meaningful life is beyond the good life.
Success requires persistence, the ability to not give up in the face of failure.
I believe that optimistic explanatory style is the key to persistence.
It's a matter of ABC: When we encounter ADVERSITY, we react by thinking about it. Our thoughts rapidly congeal into BELIEFS. These beliefs may become so habitual we don't even realize we have them unless we stop to focus on them. And they don't just sit there idly; they have CONSEQUENCES.
The belief that we can rely on shortcuts to happiness, joy, rapture, comfort, and ecstasy, rather than be entitled to these feelings by the exercise of personal strengths and virtues, leads to legions of people who, in the middle of great wealth, are starving spiritually.
I'm trying to broaden the scope of positive psychology well beyond the smiley face. Happiness is just one-fifth of what human beings choose to do.
Habits of pessimism lead to depression, wither achievement, and undermine physical health. The good news is that pessimism can be unlearned, and that with its removal depression, underachievement, and poor health can be alleviated.
Reaching beyond where you are is really important.
One of the things psychologists used to say was that if you are depressed, anxious or angry, you couldn't be happy. Those were at opposite ends of a continuum. I believe that you can be suffering or have a mental illness and be happy - just not in the same moment that you're sad.
Psychology is much bigger than just medicine, or fixing unhealthy things.
Its about education, work, marriage - its even about sports. What I want to do is see psychologists working to help people build strengths in all these domains.
To be a virtuous person is to display, by acts of will, all or at least most of the six ubiquitous virtues: wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, temperance, and transcendence.
I believe that traditional wisdom is incomplete.
A composer can have all the talent of Mozart and a passionate desire to succeed, but if he believes he cannot compose music, he will come to nothing. He will not try hard enough. He will give up too soon when the elusive right melody takes too long to materialize.
[Psychology] should be just as concerned with building strength as with repairing damage.
Once a depressed person becomes active and hopeful, self-esteem always improves.
Bolstering self-esteem without changing hopelessness, without changing passivity, accomplishes nothing.
Positive thinking is the notion that if you think good thoughts, things will work out well. Optimism is the feeling of thinking things will be well and be hopeful.
Whether or not we have hope depends on two dimensions of our explanatory style;
pervasiveness and permanence.
What are the enabling conditions that make human beings flourish? How do we get from zero to plus five?
Not only do happy people endure pain better and take more health and safety precautions when threatened, but positive emotions undo negative emotions.
The Fundamentalist Religions simply seem to offer more hope for a brighter future than do the more liberal, humanistic ones.
By activating an expansive, tolerant, and creative mindset, positive feelings maximize the social, intellectual, and physical benefits that will accrue.
Ten years ago, when I was on an airplane and I introduced myself to my seatmate, and told them [I was a psychologist], they'd move away from me. ... And now when I tell people what I do, they move toward me.
Finding temporary and specific causes for misfortune is the art of hope: Temporary causes limit helplessness in time, and specific causes limit helplessness to the original situation.
Some find that very optimistic people have benign illusions about themselves.
These people may think they have more control, or more skill, than they actually do. Others have found that optimistic people have a good handle on reality. The jury is still out.
What determines how much time and deliberate practice a child is willing to devote to achievement? Nothing less than her character.
Flow occurs in your life when your highest skills are matched to challenges that quite exactly meet them.
On the other hand, permanent causes produce helplessness far into the future, and universal causes spread helplessness through all your endeavors.
Finding permanent and universal causes for misfortune is the practice of despair.
The drive to resist compulsion is more important in wild animals than sex, food, or water... The drive for competence or to resist compulsion is a drive to avoid helplessness.
The pleasant life: a life that successfully pursues the positive emotions about the present, past, and future.
Pleasure is the least consequential... engagement and meaning are much more important.
Positive, optimistic sales people sell more than pessimistic sales people.
If we just wanted positive emotions, our species would have died out a long time ago.
There are physical characteristics which are inherited.
These include things like good looks, high intelligence, physical coordination. These attributes contribute to success in life, and success in life is a determinant of optimism.
Optimism is a tool with a certain clear set of benefits: it fights depression, it promotes achievement and produces better health.
There is one aspect of happiness that's been well studied, and it's the notion of flow. Ask yourselves, when for you does time stop? When are you truly at home, wanting to be no place else?
When we take time to notice the things that go right - it means we're getting a lot of little rewards throughout the day.
Curing the negatives does not produce the positives.
Life inflicts the same setbacks and tragedies on the optimist as on the pessimist, but the optimist weathers them better.
On the relationship side, if you teach people to respond actively and constructively when someone they care about has a victory, it increases love and friendship and decreases the probability of depression.
When it comes to our health, there are essentially four things under our control: the decision not to smoke, a commitment to exercise, the quality of our diet, and our level of optimism. And optimism is at least as beneficial as the others.
In your own life, you should take particular care with endings, for their color will forever tinge your memory of the entire relationship and your willingness to reenter it.
Habits of thinking need not be forever.
One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals choose the way they think.
The clearer the rules and the limits enforced by parents, the higher the child's self-esteem. The more freedom the child had, the lower his self-esteem.