Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.— Pema Chodron
The most unconventional Pema Chodron quotes that will be huge advantage for your personal development
Difficult things provoke all your irritations and bring your habitual patterns to the surface. And that becomes the moment of truth. You have the choice to launch into your lousy habitual patterns, or to stay with the rawness and discomfort of the situation and let it transform you.
If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.
Instead of asking ourselves, 'How can I find security and happiness?' we could ask ourselves, 'Can I touch the center of my pain? Can I sit with suffering, both yours and mine, without trying to make it go away? Can I stay present to the ache of loss or disgrace-disapp ointment in all its many forms-and let it open me?' This is the trick.
You are the sky. Everything else is just the weather.
Each moment is just what it is. It might be the only moment of our life; it might be the only strawberry we'll ever eat. We could get depressed about it, or we could finally appreciate it and delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life.
Being satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way.
So war and peace start in the human heart.
Whether that heart is open or whether that heart closes has global implications.
Just where you are - that's the place to start.
It isn't what happens to us that causes us to suffer;
it's what we say to ourselves about what happens.
To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.
If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it's fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there's an arrow in your heart.
Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
Whatever happens in your life, joyful or painful, do not be swept away by reactivity. Be patient with yourself and don't lose your sense of perspective.
To stay with that shakiness-to stay with a broken heart, with a rumbling stomach, with the feeling of hopelessness and wanting to get revenge-that is the path of true awakening. Sticking with that uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic-this is the spiritual path.
Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite.
It actually takes guts. Each time we drop our complaints and allow everyday good fortune to inspire us, we enter the warrior's world.
Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.
Openness doesn’t come from resisting our fears but rather from getting to know them well.
Our true nature is like a precious jewel: although it may be temporarily buried in mud, it remains completely brilliant and unaffected. We simply have to uncover it.
What you do for yourself, any gesture of kindness, any gesture of gentleness, any gesture of honesty and clear seeing toward yourself, will affect how you experience your world. In fact, it will transform how you experience the world. What you do for yourself, you’re doing for others, and what you do for others, you’re doing for yourself.
Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.
Learning how to be kind to ourselves, learning how to respect ourselves, is important. The reason it's important is that, fundamentally, when we look into our own hearts and begin to discover what is confused and what is brilliant, what is bitter and what is sweet, it isn't just ourselves that we're discovering. We're discovering the universe.
It's hard to know whether to laugh or to cry at the human predicament.
Here we are with so much wisdom and tenderness, and—without even knowing it—we cover it over to protect ourselves from insecurity. Although we have the potential to experience the freedom of a butterfly, we mysteriously prefer the small and fearful cocoon of ego.
Inner # peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your # emotions
So many of us start along the spiritual path because we are suffering.
But you must realize that for real healing to occur, there must first be deep compassion for yourself, especially the parts of yourself you dislike or consider ugly.
Sometimes people's spiritual ideas become fixed and they use them against those who don't share their beliefs - in effect, becoming fundamentalist. It's very dangerous - the finger of righteous indignation pointing at someone who is identified as bad or wrong.
Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded.
It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.
People get into a heavy-duty sin and guilt trip, feeling that if things are going wrong, that means that they did something bad and they are being punished. That's not the idea at all.
We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice.
Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.
Honesty without kindness, humor, and goodheartedness can be just mean.
From the very beginning to the very end, pointing to our own hearts to discover what is true isn’t just a matter of honesty but also of compassion and respect for what we see.
Impermanence is a principle of harmony.
When we don't struggle against it, we are in harmony with reality.
You are the sky. Everything else - it’s just the weather.
Usually we think that brave people have no fear. The truth is that they are intimate with fear.
Sticking with that uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic-this is the spiritual path.
We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.
Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded.
It’s a relationship between equals.
Let difficulty transform you. And it will. In my experience, we just need help in learning how not to run away.
When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless.
Anything we experience, no matter how challenging, can become an open pathway to awakening.
We have two alternatives: either we question our beliefs - or we don't.
Either we accept our fixed versions of reality- or we begin to challenge them. In Buddha's opinion, to train in staying open and curious - to train in dissolving our assumptions and beliefs - is the best use of our human lives.
There's nothing more important on our spiritual path than developing gentleness to oneself.
If you follow your heart, you're going to find that it is often extremely inconvenient.
Use your life to wake you up.
We have a choice. We can spend our whole life suffering because we can't relax with how things really are, or we can relax and embrace the open-endedness of the human situation, which is fresh, unfixated, unbiased.
If we knew that tonight we were going to go blind, we would take a long, last real look at every blade of grass, every cloud formation, every speck of dust, every rainbow, raindrop-everything.
By not knowing, not hoping to know and not acting like we know what's happening, we begin to access our inner strength.
The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes.
I can't overestimate the importance of accepting ourselves exactly as we are right now, not as we wish we were or think we ought to be.
Each person's life is like a mandala - a vast, limitless circle.
We stand in the center of our own circle, and everything we see, hear and think forms the mandala of our life ... everything that shows up in your mandala is a vehicle for your awakening.
It's a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately fill up the space. By waiting, we begin to connect with fundamental restlessness as well as fundamental spaciousness. -Pema Chodron, from "When Things Fall Apart
As each breath goes out, let it be the end of that moment and the birth of something new. . .
You build inner strength through embracing the totality of your experience, both the delightful parts and the difficult parts.
Unconditional good heart toward others is not even a possibility unless we attend to our own demons.
One of the deepest habitual patterns that we have is to feel that now is not enough.