Freedom is man's capacity to take a hand in his own development. It is our capacity to mold ourselves.— Rollo May
The most unpopular Rollo May quotes that will be huge advantage for your personal development
Courage is not the absence of despair;
it is, rather, the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair.
If you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself.
Fortunately, however, we no longer have to argue that self -love is not only necessary and good but that it also is a prerequisite for loving others.
The opposite of courage in our society isn't cowardice, its conformity.
Depression is the inability to construct a future.
Many people suffer from the fear of finding oneself alone, and so they don't find themselves at all.
Real freedom is the ability to pause between stimulus and response, and in that pause, choose.
Joy, rather than happiness, is the goal of life, for joy is the emotion which accompanies our fulfilling our natures as human beings. It is based on the experience of one's identity as a being of worth and dignity.
Creativity arises out of the tension between spontaneity and limitations, the latter (like the river banks) forcing the spontaneity into the various forms which are essential to the work of art or poem.
In order to be open to creativity, one must have the capacity for constructive use of solitude. One must overcome the fear of being alone.
Every human being must have a point at which he stands against the culture, where he says, this is me and the damned world can go to hell.
What anxiety means is it's as though the world is knocking at your door, and you need to create, you need to make something, you need to do something. I think anxiety, for people who have found their own heart and their own souls, for them it is a stimulus toward creativity, toward courage. It's what makes us human beings.
Memory is not just the imprint of the past time upon us;
it is the keeper of what is meaningful for our deepest hopes and fears.
It is an old and ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way; and we grasp more fiercely at research, statistics, and technical aids in sex when we have lost the values and meaning of love.
In religion, it is not the sycophants or those who cling most faithfully to the status quo who are ultimately praised. It is the insurgents.
Love is generally confused with dependence;
but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.
There can be no stronger proof of the impoverishment of our contemporary culture than the popular - though profoundly mistaken - definition of myth as falsehood.
The purpose of psychotherapy is to set people free.
Science, Nietzsche had warned, is becoming a factory, and the result will be ethical nihilism.
Many people feel they are powerless to do anything effective with their lives.
It takes courage to break out of the settled mold, but most find conformity more comfortable. This is why the opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it's conformity.
Hate is not the opposite of love; apathy is.
People attain worth and dignity by the multitude of decisions they make from day to day.
Courage is not a virtue of value among other personal values like love or fidelity. It is the foundation that underlies and gives reality to all other virtues and personal values. Without courage our love pales into mere dependency. Without courage our fidelity becomes conformism.
Suffering is nature's way of indicating a mistaken attitude or way of behavior, and to the nonegocentric person every moment of suffering is the opportunity for growth. People should rejoice in suffering, strange as it sounds, for this is a sign of the availability of energy to transform their characters.
The mature person becomes able to differentiate feelings into as many nuances, strong and passionate experiences, or delicate and sensitive ones, as in the different passages of music in a symphony. Unfortunately, many of us have feelings limited like notes in a bugle call.
The word courage comes from the same stem as the French word Coeur, meaning "heart." Thus just as one's heart, by pumping blood to one's arms, legs, and brain enables all the other physical organs to function, so courage makes possible all the psychological virtues. Without courage other values wither away into mere facsimiles of virtue.
One of the easiest ways to be irresponsible about power is to forget you have it.
Creativity is not merely the innocent spontaneity of our youth and childhood;
it must also be married to the passion of the adult human being, which is a passion to live beyond one's death.
Creativity is the process of bringing something new into being.
Creativity requires passion and commitment. It brings to our awareness what was previously hidden and points to new life. The experience is one of heightened consciousness: ecstasy.
It is an ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way.
The receptivity of the artist must never be confused with passivity.
Receptivity is the artist's holding him or herself alive and open to hear what being may speak.
Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable.
It requires greater courage to preserve inner freedom, to move on in one's inward journey into new realms, than to stand defiantly for outer freedom. It is often easier to play the martyr, as it is to be rash in battle.
What if imagination and art are not frosting at all, but the fountainhead of human experience?
Vanity and narcissism — the compulsive need to be admired and praised — undermine one's courage, for one then fights on someone else's conviction rather than one's own.
There is an energy field between humans.
And, when we reach out in passion, it is met with an answering passion and changes the relationship forever.
The function of the rebel is to shake the fixated mores of the rigid order of civilization; and this shaking, though painful, is necessary if the society is to be saved from boredom and apathy. Obviously I do not refer to everyone who calls himself a rebel, but only to the authentic rebel. Civilization gets its first flower from the rebel.
Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable.
We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us.
Receptivity requires a nimbleness, a fine-honed sensitivity in order to let one's self be the vehicle of whatever vision may emerge.
Anxiety is essential to the human condition.
The confrontation with anxiety can relieve us from boredom, sharpen the sensitivity and assure the presence of tension that is necessary to preserve human existence.
Mass communication--wonder as it may be technologically and something to be appreciated and valued--presents us wit a serious daner, the danger of conformism, due to the fact that we all view the same things at the same time in all the cities of the country. (p. 73)
The essence of being human is that, in the brief moment we exist on this spinning planet, we can love some persons and some things, in spite of the fact that time and death will ultimately claim us all.
Artists love to immerse themselves in chaos in order to put it into form, just as God created form out of chaos in Genesis. Forever unsatisfied with the mundane, the apathetic, the conventional, they always push on to newer worlds.
Poets often have a conscious awareness that they are struggling with the daimonic, and that the issue is their working something through from the depths which push the self to a new plane.
Violence arises not out of superfluity of power but out of powerlessness.
Creative people... are distinguished by the fact that they can live with anxiety, even though a high price may be paid in terms of insecurity, sensitivity, and defenselessness for the gift of 'divine madness,' to borrow the term used by the classical Greeks.
The daimonic is any natural function which has the power to take over the whole person. Sex and eros, anger and rage, and the craving for power are examples. The daimonic can be either creative or destructive and is normally both.
Apathy adds up, in the long run, to cowardice.
Tenderness emerges from the fact that the two persons, longing, as all individuals do, to overcome the separateness and isolation to which we are all heir because we are individuals, can participate in a relationship that, for the moment, is not of two isolated selves but a union
Dogmatism of all kinds--scientific, economic, moral, as well as political--are threatened by the creative freedom of the artist. This is necessarily and inevitably so. We cannot escape our anxiety over the fact that the artists together with creative persons of all sorts, are the possible destroyer of our nicely ordered systems. (p. 76)