115 Self Pity Quotes to Overcome Adversity and Find Inner Strength

The Most Famous Self Pity Quotes (Best in 2024)

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Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality. — John W. Gardner

Self pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality. — John Gardner

Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world. — Helen Keller

There's no room in my life for feeling sorry for myself. — Wayne Newton

God put self-pity by the side of despair like the cure by the side of the disease. — Albert Camus

Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have. — Dale Carnegie

Self-deprecating or arrogant, it's all selfish. Hard as it is, life's better when you spend more time on the rest of the world — Patrick Stump

There is luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel no one else has a right to blame us. — Oscar Wilde

Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting. — William Shakespeare

I try not to waste time feeling bad for myself, because when I do, there's no room for happiness. — Sam Berns

Short Self Pity Quotes

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  • Try to avoid complaints. Self-pity even when legitimate never fails to undermine your strength. — Mariane Pearl
  • Identity is not inherent. It is shaped by circumstance and sensitivity and resistance to self-pity. — Dorothy West
  • I tell people to monitor their self-pity. Self-pity is very unattractive. — Patty Duke
  • Praise will lead you to vanity, and blame will lead you to self-pity, and both are bad for writers. — John Berryman
  • Self-pity is... a sinkhole from which no rescuing hand can drag you because you have chosen to sink. — Elisabeth Elliot
  • What you are comes to you. — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • There is no room on the golf course for anger or self-pity. — Greg Norman
  • Sadness is almost never anything but a form of fatigue. — Andre Gide
  • Self-pity is the most destructive of all narcotics. — Sebastian Horsley
  • Far more quickly than reason and logic, irony can penetrate rage and puncture self-pity. — Moss Hart
Self pity quote Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situation that threaten your p
Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situation that threaten your peace of mind, self respect, values, morals and self worth.

No Self Pity Quotes

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There is no time for despair, no place for self-pity, no need for silence, no room for fear. We speak, we write, we do language. That is how civilizations heal. — Toni Morrison

I'm not going to wallow in self-pity and not live my life. There are always going to be some falls in life for everybody, no matter what career you have. You have to roll with the punches and keep going. — Naomi Campbell

The idolatry the exists in a man's heart always wants to lead him away from his Savior and back to self-reliance no matter how pitiful that self-reliance is or how many times it has betrayed him. — Matt Chandler

Self pity quote We are what we believe we are.
We are what we believe we are.

Discontent, blaming, complaining, self-pity cannot serve as a foundation for a good future, no matter how much effort you make. — Eckhart Tolle

That is the challenge Companion. To take what has happened to you and learn from it. Nothing is quite so destructive as pity, especially self-pity. No event in life is so terrible that one cannot rise above it. — Robin Hobb

I particularly scorn my fondness for paradox. I despise pessimism, narcissism, solipsism, truculence, word-play, and pusillanimity, my chiefer inclinations; loathe self-loathers ergo me; have no pity for self-pity and so am free of that sweet baseness. I doubt I am. Being me’s no joke. — John Barth

I lay my head on the railroad track, waitin' on the Double E. But the train don't run by here no more, poor, poor, pitiful me. — Warren Zevon

Being Lutheran, Mother believed that self-pity is a deadly sin and so is nostalgia, and she had no time for either — Garrison Keillor

But victimhood was seductive, a release from responsibility and caring. Fear would be transmuted into weary resignation; failure would no longer generate guilt but, instead, would spawn a comforting self-pity. — Dean Koontz

I was young I was so young it hurt like a knife inside because there was no alternative except to hide as long as possible--- not in self-pity but with dismay at my limited chance: trying to connect. — Charles Bukowski

Feeling Self Pity Quotes

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Never feel self-pity, the most destructive emotion there is. How awful to be caught up in the terrible squirrel cage of self. — Millicent Fenwick

I pity bashful men, who feel the pain Of fancied scorn and undeserved disdain, And bear the marks upon a blushing face, OF needless shame, and self-impos'd disgrace. — William Cowper

I am a cheerful man, even in the dark, and it's all thanks to a good Lutheran mother. . . . Mother was well composed, a true Lutheran, and taught me to Cheer up, Make yourself useful, Mind your manners, and above all, Don't feel sorry for yourself. — Garrison Keillor

The atheist view is correspondingly life-affirming and life-enhancing, while at the same time never being tainted with self-delusion, wishful thinking, or the whingeing self-pity of those who feel that life owes them something. — Richard Dawkins

If it weren't the problem of politics for me, it would be another. And yet, sometimes it's so difficult. And I feel sorry for myself. And then hate myself for this feeling of self-pity. — Julie Nixon Eisenhower

Self-pity is an ignoble emotion, but we all feel it, and the orthodox critical line that it represents some kind of artistic flaw is dubious, a form of emotional correctness. — Nick Hornby

The feeling it gave me was an odd combination of weightless self-pity and excitement. I understood my life was meaningless, and this knowledge freed me up to accomplish absolutely anything. — Matt de la Pena

I thought about all the people I knew who spent many of their waking hours feeling sorry for themselves. How useful it would be to put a daily limit on self-pity. Just a few tearful minutes, then on with the day. — Mitch Albom

Being able to play tragedy for humor rather than pity is a new trick I've learned. For a long time that's what I did with my poetry, ask people to feel sorry for me. I got sober and I realized I have to get out of the pity thing; it's not going anywhere for me. I don't want to have any self-pity. — Bucky Sinister

Everybody who undergoes a death and finds themselves grieving is obsessed with — or maybe overly focused on — the idea that they can’t display self-pity, they have to be strong. Actually there are a lot of reasons why you are going to feel sorry for yourself, but that’s your first concern. — Joan Didion

Wallowing In Self Pity Quotes

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The best of our theater is standing on tiptoe, striving to see over the shoulders of father and mother. The worst is exploiting and wallowing in the self-pity of adolescence and obsessive keyhole sexuality. The way out, as the poet says, is always through. — Arthur Miller

You need not spend your life wallowing in failure, ignorance, grief, poverty, shame and self-pity. There is a better way to live. — Og Mandino

We are not going to win because you have a new head coach, any more than you are going to fix a flat tire by changing the driver. We will win the minute all of us get rid of excuses as to why we can't win and stop wallowing in self-pity. — Lou Holtz

Never try to understand the students. They hate it. They would much rather be tragically misunderstood, wallow in self-pity, stew in their own —” “That’s enough, Phineas,” said Dumbledore. — J. K. Rowling

The people who ultimately reach their goals are those who don't give up. Instead of wallowing in self-pity or frustration - or throwing in the towel altogether - they explore what didn't work and course-correct. — Lauren Mackler

You shouldn't wallow in self-pity. But it's OK to put your feet in it and swish them around a little. — Dick Guindon

In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity or you can pick yourself up and say listen, I have to be responsible for myself. — Howard Schultz

Self-pity is the campsite of self-defeat; it is a dark refuge for those parts of us that would rather wallow in what cannot be than dare to explore what is possible. — Guy Finley

Self pity is of the devil, and if I wallow in it, I cannot be used by God for his purpose in the world. — Oswald Chambers

Sometimes, you know, I cry. And sometimes I scream. And I get really angry. And I get really upset, you know, into wallowing in self-pity sometimes. And I think that it's all part of the healing. — Christina Applegate

Self-pity Quotes

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Anger, resentment, envy, and self-pity are wasteful reactions. They greatly drain one's time. They sap energy better devoted to productive endeavors. — Ruth Bader Ginsburg

The true Christian reaction to suffering and sorrow is not the attitude of self-pity, fatalism or resentment; it is the spirit which takes life's difficulties as a God given opportunity, and regards its troubles as a sacred trust, and wears the thorns as a crown. — James Stewart

Fear is a habit, so is self pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can and I will. — Napoleon Hill

Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat... Never take yourself too seriously. — Og Mandino

It is a peculiar sensation, this double-consciousness, this sense of always looking at one's self through the eyes of others, of measuring one's soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused contempt and pity. — W. E. B. Du Bois

Ignorance, intolerance, egotism, self-assertion, opaque perception, dense and pitiful chuckle headedness - and an almost pathetic unconsciousness of it all, that is what I was at nineteen and twenty. — Mark Twain

You are being self-pitying." "I'm nearly done. You don't have much more of this to bear." "I like you better this way." "Crushed and broken," Gansey said. "Just the way women like 'em. — Maggie Stiefvater

O my soul, what are you doing? Are you not aware that God sees you always? You can never hide yourself from His sight. O Father, have pity on us because we are blind and in darkness. Drive out the darkness and give me light. Melt the ice of my self-love and kindle in me the fire of Your charity. — St. Catherine of Siena

Self-pity imprisons us in the walls of our own self-absorption. The whole world shrinks down to the size of our problem, and the more we dwell on it, the smaller we are and the larger the problem seems to grow. Awareness of others is a healthy antidote to this self-focus. — Kevin Malarkey

If someone decides they're not going to be happy, it's not your problem. You don't have to spend your time and energy trying to cheer up someone who has already decided to stay in a bad mood. Believe it or not, you can actually hurt people by playing into their self-pity. — Joyce Meyer

Self Indulgence Quotes

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Facials are my biggest beauty indulgence. Looking good is about having a good base. It's about taking care of your skin. — Halle Berry

A human-being is not a human-being while his tendencies include self-indulgence, covetousness, temper and attacking other people — Al-Ghazali

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. — Audre Lorde

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I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days. — Kevin Costner

So, let us, you and I, for the sake of our brother man, individually strive by example and influence to lift the standard of thought and conduct from the low level of selfishness and self-indulgence up to the lofty realms of aspirational thought and self-denial. — Ossian Everett Mills

The complacent, the self-indulgent, the soft societies are about to be swept away with the debris of history. Only the strong, only the industrious, only the determined, only the courageous, only the visionary who determine the real nature of our struggle can possibly survive. — John F. Kennedy

I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it's these things I'd believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn't all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything. — F. Scott Fitzgerald

While overeating would be seen by some as an indulgence of self, it is in fact a profound rejection of self. It is a moment of self-betrayal and self-punishment, and anything but a commitment to one's own well-being. — Marianne Williamson

L'Oreal's slogan 'because you're worth it' has come to epitomise banal narcissism of early 21st century capitalism; easy indulgence and effortless self-love all available at a flick of the credit card. — Geoff Mulgan

I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival. — Audre Lorde

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More Self Pity Quotes

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They who have no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears, troubles, and self-pitying, all of which are indications of weakness, which lead, just as surely as deliberately planned sins (though by a different route), to failure, unhappiness, and loss, for weakness cannot persist in a power evolving universe. — James Allen

Self-pity is the bestiality of emotions: it absolutely disgusts people. When you're feeling pity for yourself, and somebody says to you 'You think maybe it's time for the pity party to be over? You should stop feeling sorry for yourself and try to think positive,' it makes you wish you could saw their head off. — Augusten Burroughs

Prayer makes a godly man, and puts within him "the mind of Christ," the mind of humility, of self-surrender, of service, of pity, and of prayer. If we really pray, we will become more like God, or else we will quit praying. — Edward McKendree Bounds

So if I were talking to a young writer, I would recommend the cultivation of extreme indifference to both praise and blame because praise will lead you to vanity, and blame will lead you to self-pity, and both are bad for writers. — John Berryman

Shake off the self-pity, shake off the defeat and get ready for God to do something new. He is going to pay you back for every injustice. — Joel Osteen

There's only one rule you need to remember: laugh at everything and foget everybody else! It sound egotistical, but it's actually the only cure for those suffering from self-pity. — Anne Frank

It is only a step from boredom to disillusionment, which leads naturally to self-pity, which in turn ends in chaos. — Manly Hall

I used to have a real problem with self-pity. Every time the devil would throw a pity party, I would attend. — Joyce Meyer

Overcome any bitterness that may have come because you were not up to the magnitude of the pain entrusted to you. Like the mother of the world who carries the pain of the world in her heart, you are sharing in a certain measure of that cosmic pain, and are called upon to meet it in joy instead of self pity. — Vilayat Inayat Khan

Gratitude is a dialysis of sorts... it flushes the self-pity out of our systems. — Max Lucado

Emptiness and boredom: what an understatement. What I felt was complete desolation. Desolation, despair, and depression. Isn't there some other way to look at this? After all, angst of these dimensions is a luxury item. You need to be well fed, clothes, and housed to have time for this much self-pity. — Susanna Kaysen

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself — D. H. Lawrence

Instead of confronting its real and difficult problems and grappling honestly with a dark past, Hungary embraced a reactionary government and a self-pitying image of itself as the victimized nation, and went looking for scapegoats in the Roma, Jews, and, most recently, Syrian migrants. — Susan Faludi

In Conclusion

Self-pity quotes can provide insight into the detrimental effects of dwelling on negative emotions. They encourage individuals to break free from the cycle of self-pity and instead focus on personal growth and self-improvement. These quotes often emphasize the importance of self-empowerment and remind us that we have the ability to overcome challenges and find happiness within ourselves. By reflecting on these quotes, individuals are encouraged to shift their mindset and adopt a more positive and proactive outlook on life.

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